{"podcast":{"title":"The Ugly Truth of Divorce","slug":"the-ugly-truth-of-divorce-7690600","podcast_index_feed_id":7690600,"rss_url":"https://audioboom.com/channels/5166049.rss","website_url":"https://audioboom.com/channels/5166049","image_url":"https://audioboom.com/i/43442986/s=1400x1400/el=1/rt=fill.png","author":"Samantha Boss","episode_count":29,"summary":"The Ugly Truth of Divorce is for parents navigating custody, conflict, and co-parenting with someone who makes everything harder than it needs to be. Hosted by Samantha Boss — divorce coach, parenting plan expert, and someone who’s lived through a high-conflict divorce — this podcast breaks down what actually matters: the mistakes parents don’t realize they’re making, the parenting plans that fail families long-term, and the decisions you only get one chance to get right. These are short, straight-to-the-point episodes focused on high-conflict divorce, court-ready parenting plans, and protecting your kids, your peace, and your future. No sugarcoating. No legal jargon. Just clarity—so you can know better, decide smarter, and move forward with confidence. Follow Samantha Boss: Website Facebook Instagram TikTok LinkedIn YouTube","last_synced_at":null,"page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-ugly-truth-of-divorce-7690600"},"episode":{"title":"27: Are You “Controlling” for Bringing Your Own Parenting Plan?","slug":"27-are-you-controlling-for-bringing-your-own-parenting-plan","published_at":"2026-05-07T09:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-ugly-truth-of-divorce-7690600/27-are-you-controlling-for-bringing-your-own-parenting-plan","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-ugly-truth-of-divorce-7690600","url":"https://audioboom.com/posts/8900430","audio_url":"https://dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/audioboom.com/posts/8900430.mp3?modified=1778123126&sid=5166049&source=rss","summary":"Your attorney just told you that bringing a prepared parenting plan to mediation makes you \"controlling.\" And you believed them. That's the problem right there. I'm a former mediator. I've been doing this for a decade. And I'm telling you straight up: that \"controlling\" label is bullshit designed to keep you dependent, confused, and broke. Here's what actually happens: You walk into mediation completely blind, shaking, possibly about to vomit (because that's what divorce anxiety does to you). Your attorney sits there. Your mediator sits there. Both of them getting paid $250-750 an hour. And they want you to have absolutely nothing prepared. No thoughts. No plan. Nothing. If that doesn't sound like a fucking scam, we're not the same. When someone walks in prepared with their parenting plan, I immediately know they care. They've educated themselves. They're not going to waste time on bullshit about the past (which, by the way, is literally how attorneys make money). But here's the thing: your attorney doesn't want you educated. An educated client is a threat to their business model. I spent 300 court dates and hundreds of thousands of dollars with a four-page garbage parenting plan because I didn't come prepared. I didn't know any better. You're not doing that. Your mediator doesn't know your kids. Doesn't know your schedule. Doesn't know your ex. Doesn't know shit about your actual life. You do. So why the hell would you walk in empty-handed to the most important negotiation of your entire life? Your future is literally the most important thing you'll ever negotiate. Act like it. Here’s What You Can Actually Take Away: Preparation Wins Over Powerlessness - Walking in prepared with your thoughts organized on paper means you walk in knowing you've got this. That's not con…","meta_description":"Your attorney just told you that bringing a prepared parenting plan to mediation makes you \"controlling.\" And you believed them. That's the problem right…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1442,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/the-ugly-truth-of-divorce-7690600/episodes/27-are-you-controlling-for-bringing-your-own-parenting-plan/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-ugly-truth-of-divorce-7690600/27-are-you-controlling-for-bringing-your-own-parenting-plan.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}