{"podcast":{"title":"The Secure Husband","slug":"the-secure-husband-7258341","podcast_index_feed_id":7258341,"rss_url":"https://feeds.transistor.fm/the-secure-husband","website_url":"https://securehusband.com","image_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/HkPRzX_jb9NYxmQFwZYB3MTDKZMPMXQLTUan_DkdLjE/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:1400/h:1400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8xM2Vj/NGY4MTMxZDhhNmE5/ZGI4YzVmMjNmZjRh/YWU4MC5wbmc.jpg","author":"M. Bruce Abbott","episode_count":180,"summary":"A Secure Husband no longer seeks validation from his wife; he stands strong in self-worth, meets his own emotional needs, and leads with confidence and clarity. I’ve been where you are, and I’m here to help you break free from old patterns, reclaim your strength, and transform your marriage from the inside out.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-26T04:20:40.877988+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-secure-husband-7258341"},"episode":{"title":"Why Dismissive-Avoidants Get So Triggered by Codependent Behavior (Codependency Podcast Series)","slug":"why-dismissive-avoidants-get-so-triggered-by-codependent-behavior-codependency-podcast-series","published_at":"2026-06-17T05:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-secure-husband-7258341/why-dismissive-avoidants-get-so-triggered-by-codependent-behavior-codependency-podcast-series","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-secure-husband-7258341","url":"https://share.transistor.fm/s/962a0bb7","audio_url":"https://media.transistor.fm/962a0bb7/22d20319.mp3","summary":"Why does the more you pursue connection, the more your spouse seems to pull away? In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explore one of the most painful relationship dynamics: the codependent husband and the dismissive-avoidant wife. Many men believe they are helping the relationship by trying harder, communicating more, and seeking more connection. Yet those efforts often create more distance. You'll learn why dismissive-avoidants often experience pursuit as pressure, why shame sits underneath many avoidant behaviors, and why relationship conversations can feel overwhelming for them. We also discuss how anxiety, codependency, emotional dependence, and the need for reassurance can unintentionally fuel the cycle. Most importantly, you'll learn why becoming more secure often changes the dynamic more than trying harder ever could. If this relationship pattern sounds familiar, this episode will help you understand what may be happening beneath the surface. If you'd like help working through your own marriage, schedule a free 30-minute consultation at SecureHusband.com. It's simply a conversation about what's happening in your marriage and how coaching might work for you. No sales pitch. No pressure. Just a chance to see if it's a good fit and how I can help. #DismissiveAvoidant #Codependency #AttachmentStyles #MarriageHelp #SecureHusband If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com. #DismissiveAvoidant #codependency #deadbedroom #marriage #sexlessmarriage #MarriageHelp #attachmentstyles All content is for informational purposes only and does not provide medical or psychological diagnosis or treatment. Always consult your physician…","meta_description":"Why does the more you pursue connection, the more your spouse seems to pull away? In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explore one of the mos…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1477,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/the-secure-husband-7258341/episodes/why-dismissive-avoidants-get-so-triggered-by-codependent-behavior-codependency-podcast-series/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-secure-husband-7258341/why-dismissive-avoidants-get-so-triggered-by-codependent-behavior-codependency-podcast-series.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}