{"podcast":{"title":"The Scenic Route with Victoria Steward","slug":"the-scenic-route-with-victoria-steward-7782802","podcast_index_feed_id":7782802,"rss_url":"https://api.riverside.fm/hosting/S6ZcgSiO.rss","website_url":"www.victoria-steward.com","image_url":"https://hosting-media.riverside.com/media/podcasts/951714c0-7b4d-4675-bd36-b3bd278f8546/logos/46260bbc-d587-4fc0-b414-b393efa55bf4.png","author":"Victoria Steward","episode_count":19,"summary":"What if the detour was never a wrong turn? We get handed one map early on: the superhighway. Pick the career, hit the milestones, stay in the fast lane somebody else drew for us. And one day a lot of us look up and realize it's been heading somewhere we never actually chose. This is a show about the people who got off it. I'm Victoria Steward. I spent 20 years as a federal civilian engineer/project manager before I left on a gut feeling and started taking my own scenic route. Every week I sit down with interesting people who made a change, sometimes sudden, sometimes so gradual they almost missed it, that sent their life somewhere they never saw coming. The kind of stories that inspire you to start dreaming into your own. If you've started to wonder whether there's a different road available to you, you're in exactly the right place. ✨ New episodes every week. 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There’s a version where you give every part of yourself to your career, and then one day notice the same pattern playing out in dating, in money, in your body, in your business. “A pattern is a pattern is a pattern,” Lilli Bewley says. Once you see it, you can’t unsee it. Lilli is a Dating Coach for Finding Love and the creator of the Feminine Dating Archetype Quiz. Her framework is the four stages women move through on the way back to themselves: Chill Woman, Fortress Woman, Goddess Woman, Magnetic Woman. And the Magnetic Woman isn’t a mask. She’s the version of you where your actions, your behaviors, your thoughts, your beliefs and your emotions finally line up. In this conversation Victoria takes the quiz and lands as the Chill Woman, which drops us straight into the thing this whole show is about: how do you know what you actually want, and how do you get brave enough to stay with it when life starts asking you to test it? Lilli tells the story of the first real boundary she ever set... shaking in her car outside a doctor’s office, asking the nurse to skip the scale as an act of self-love. And the moment she stopped trying to push through fear and started moving toward it instead. This one’s for you if you’ve ever read a self-help book that named what was wrong with you and then left you stranded on how to actually change it. CHAPTERS 00:00 Welcome to the Scenic Route 00:52 Lilli’s journey... surviving to thriving in love 03:26 “I do nothing”... Victoria on the identity freeze after leaving a 20-year career 05:21 “Who am I without this?” The most confronting question 08:00 The eldest-daughter pattern shows up everywhere 10:33 The Feminine Dating Archetypes frame…","meta_description":"There’s a version of high-achieving where you absorb everyone else’s everything and call it being chill. 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