{"podcast":{"title":"The Rare Life","slug":"the-rare-life-1239619","podcast_index_feed_id":1239619,"rss_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/22c0499c/podcast/rss","website_url":"https://therarelife.org","image_url":"https://d3t3ozftmdmh3i.cloudfront.net/staging/podcast_uploaded_nologo/5730271/7551fc611b293c10.jpeg","author":"Madeline Cheney","episode_count":305,"summary":"This is the real, raw, and all the feels of loving a child with disabilities. Episodes feature parent-guests, professionals, and solo episodes with host Madeline Cheney. Their authentic conversations don’t shy away from the strong and mixed emotions that often accompany medically-complex parenting. Parents listen in to feel seen, validated, and receive much-needed solidarity. Professionals working with disabled people listen in to better understand what is often going on under the surface for a family living with disabilities.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-10T02:17:02.683032+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-rare-life-1239619"},"episode":{"title":"218: Moms vs. Dads in the Medical System | Dismissal, Assumptions + the Cost of Not Being Trusted w/ Kyrie Herman","slug":"218-moms-vs-dads-in-the-medical-system-dismissal-assumptions-the-cost-of-not-being-trusted-w-kyrie-herman","published_at":"2026-03-19T15:35:20+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-rare-life-1239619/218-moms-vs-dads-in-the-medical-system-dismissal-assumptions-the-cost-of-not-being-trusted-w-kyrie-herman","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-rare-life-1239619","url":"https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/the-rare-life/episodes/218-Moms-vs--Dads-in-the-Medical-System--Dismissal--Assumptions--the-Cost-of-Not-Being-Trusted-w-Kyrie-Herman-e3gmjus","audio_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/22c0499c/podcast/play/117181852/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-2-19%2F07f1727d-a0b2-0489-0d7c-6ce658c9737b.mp3","summary":"For most of us who have spent years inside the medical system with a complex child, the experience of being mom in an exam room can feel very different from the experience of being dad. Sometimes that means being dismissed while your husband gets taken seriously. Sometimes it means the opposite — dad gets treated like wallpaper while mom is assumed to be the only one who knows anything. Either way, those dynamics have a way of wearing on a family over time. In this episode, Kyrie joins The Rare Life to talk about the gap between how mothers and fathers can be received by medical providers, and what it costs families when those assumptions go unchecked. We get into the emotional toll of having to manage how you come across just to be believed, the medical trauma that quietly changes how we show up over the years, and the way this can play out differently depending on your family — including the families where it's dad who feels dismissed and overlooked. If you've ever felt like you had to work harder than your partner just to be heard, or wondered why the same concern lands so differently depending on who's saying it, this one will resonate. Links: Join The Rare Life newsletter and never miss an update! Fill out our contact form to join upcoming discussion groups! Follow us on Instagram @the_rare_life ! Follow Kyrie on Instagram @kyrieherman ! Donate to the podcast or Contact me about sponsoring an episode.","meta_description":"For most of us who have spent years inside the medical system with a complex child, the experience of being mom in an exam room can feel very different fr…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":3271,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/the-rare-life-1239619/episodes/218-moms-vs-dads-in-the-medical-system-dismissal-assumptions-the-cost-of-not-being-trusted-w-kyrie-herman/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-rare-life-1239619/218-moms-vs-dads-in-the-medical-system-dismissal-assumptions-the-cost-of-not-being-trusted-w-kyrie-herman.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}