{"podcast":{"title":"The Partnership Podcast","slug":"the-partnership-podcast-6297702","podcast_index_feed_id":6297702,"rss_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/7f527158/podcast/rss","website_url":"https://sexedforyou.com/podcasts/partnershippod","image_url":"https://d3t3ozftmdmh3i.cloudfront.net/staging/podcast_uploaded_nologo/21261094/21261094-1739196903483-10ae2d4eee2ad.jpg","author":"Lauren and Trey","episode_count":168,"summary":"Trey and Lauren met on an online dating app in 2019 and have chosen partnership (almost) every day since. This podcast takes you behind the scenes of their relationship and is committed to sharing both their successes and failures so that you can learn from their experiences and cultivate the relationships of your dreams.","last_synced_at":"2026-06-30T00:17:11.071937+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-partnership-podcast-6297702"},"episode":{"title":"Why Sex Stops After You Get Married (And What Happened When We Fought On-Air About It)","slug":"why-sex-stops-after-you-get-married-and-what-happened-when-we-fought-on-air-about-it","published_at":"2026-06-22T11:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-partnership-podcast-6297702/why-sex-stops-after-you-get-married-and-what-happened-when-we-fought-on-air-about-it","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-partnership-podcast-6297702","url":"https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thepartnershippodcast/episodes/Why-Sex-Stops-After-You-Get-Married-And-What-Happened-When-We-Fought-On-Air-About-It-e3l19jq","audio_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/7f527158/podcast/play/121726010/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-5-19%2F426476324-44100-2-ca585983b2358.mp3","summary":"We hope you’re ready for the ultimate exercise in relational transparency, because this week’s episode takes a turn that none of us saw coming. Lauren and Trey sit down after a two-week batching break to look at a pattern plaguing many hetero relationships: the feeling of being "duped" after the wedding ceremony when the lingerie, the dates, and the blowjobs seem to stop, or when a partner lets themselves go. Using Dané Logan’s book Sovereign Love as a guide, Lauren opens up a conversation about entitlement, gender norms, and the cycles of caretaking and control. But things quickly shift from theoretical analysis to real-time practice. When Trey pushes back on the framework of "big P Patriarchy," an unexpected on-air conflict erupts over communication styles, interruptions, and hurt feelings. Instead of editing it out, Lauren and Trey leave the microphones running to show you the raw, awkward, and deeply human process of navigating a live trigger inside a long-term partnership. Lauren and Trey unpack the common complaint heard from straight men that the woman they married isn’t the easygoing, sexually forward woman they dated. They look at both sides of this coin, from the abrupt halt of spontaneous sexual intimacy to the lack of effort in dating and appearance from men post-marriage. Lauren utilizes Emily Nagoski’s framework to help men identify what they actually mean when they say they want more sex. Do they want connection, to feel wanted/desired, physical pleasure, or an adventure/escape? Halfway through the episode, the couple hits an original source wound. Trey shares how Lauren’s hand gestures and "expert stage posture" made him feel small and cut off, causing him to mentally pull out of the conversation. Lauren clarifies that exam…","meta_description":"We hope you’re ready for the ultimate exercise in relational transparency, because this week’s episode takes a turn that none of us saw coming. Lauren and…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1781,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/the-partnership-podcast-6297702/episodes/why-sex-stops-after-you-get-married-and-what-happened-when-we-fought-on-air-about-it/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-partnership-podcast-6297702/why-sex-stops-after-you-get-married-and-what-happened-when-we-fought-on-air-about-it.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}