{"podcast":{"title":"The Partnership Podcast","slug":"the-partnership-podcast-6297702","podcast_index_feed_id":6297702,"rss_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/7f527158/podcast/rss","website_url":"https://sexedforyou.com/podcasts/partnershippod","image_url":"https://d3t3ozftmdmh3i.cloudfront.net/staging/podcast_uploaded_nologo/21261094/21261094-1739196903483-10ae2d4eee2ad.jpg","author":"Lauren and Trey","episode_count":168,"summary":"Trey and Lauren met on an online dating app in 2019 and have chosen partnership (almost) every day since. This podcast takes you behind the scenes of their relationship and is committed to sharing both their successes and failures so that you can learn from their experiences and cultivate the relationships of your dreams.","last_synced_at":"2026-06-30T00:17:11.071937+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-partnership-podcast-6297702"},"episode":{"title":"Projections, Repair, and Rage: When Growth Feels Uncomfortable in Partnership","slug":"projections-repair-and-rage-when-growth-feels-uncomfortable-in-partnership","published_at":"2026-02-09T12:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-partnership-podcast-6297702/projections-repair-and-rage-when-growth-feels-uncomfortable-in-partnership","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-partnership-podcast-6297702","url":"https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thepartnershippodcast/episodes/Projections--Repair--and-Rage-When-Growth-Feels-Uncomfortable-in-Partnership-e3ee2l6","audio_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/7f527158/podcast/play/114804838/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-0-30%2F417170711-44100-2-93a330c361e1a.mp3","summary":"Following on from last week’s episode, Lauren and Trey pick up right where they left off; they pull back the curtain on why Lauren, a lifelong people-pleaser, is intentionally practicing standing in her ego rather than collapsing into a martyrdom apology. Trey reflects on the discomfort of watching his partner grow into a version of herself that doesn't immediately move to restore his comfort. He shares the internal dialogue he navigated while Lauren explored her agency, and how he manages the aftershocks of her development. Together, they unpack how Lauren’s lateness triggered Trey’s childhood wounds regarding his mother, proving that the emotional responses we feel in partnership often have less to do with our partner and everything to do with our primary caregivers. Drawing on the work of David Schnarch, they explore the "two-choice dilemma" and the power of the Third Domain; a space where partners can lay down their anxieties and feedback to observe them from a distance rather than being consumed by them. They close out the conversation with a reminder that while we choose our partners, we also choose their trauma and the rate at which they heal. Expect raw honesty, a few digs about boomer parents, and a deep dive into why developing the capacity to sit in discomfort is a relational superpower. If this conversation resonated, especially around setting boundaries or navigating childhood triggers, you don't have to do the work alone. Request a free 15-minute consultation for individuals and couples looking to build a more resilient, embodied connection. Request your consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult . About Them Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You . She provides comprehensive sexuality…","meta_description":"Following on from last week’s episode, Lauren and Trey pick up right where they left off; they pull back the curtain on why Lauren, a lifelong people-plea…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1765,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/the-partnership-podcast-6297702/episodes/projections-repair-and-rage-when-growth-feels-uncomfortable-in-partnership/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-partnership-podcast-6297702/projections-repair-and-rage-when-growth-feels-uncomfortable-in-partnership.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}