{"podcast":{"title":"The Mental Healness Podcast","slug":"the-mental-healness-podcast-526019","podcast_index_feed_id":526019,"rss_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/cd15a2c/podcast/rss","website_url":"https://www.mentalhealness.net","image_url":"https://d3t3ozftmdmh3i.cloudfront.net/staging/podcast_uploaded_nologo/2050467/2050467-1760046030960-a32114cb7498f.jpg","author":"Lee Hammock","episode_count":1899,"summary":"Welcome to the Mental Healness Podcast, hosted by yours truly, Lee Hammock. If you're new here I have NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and I've been in therapy for the last 8 years learning how to deal with it and live a better life. From the start I've offered you the rare POV of a diagnosed narcissist but NOW I'm switching it up a little bit. I'm interviewing others that are dealing with their own mental health journeys and those that have dealt with toxic relationship dynamics as well. I'm still sharing my POV just sharing others as well. Collabs ✉ partnerships@mentalhealness.net","last_synced_at":"2026-07-19T16:17:34.929611+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-mental-healness-podcast-526019"},"episode":{"title":"Why Toxic Exes Pop Back Up When You Finally Heal","slug":"why-toxic-exes-pop-back-up-when-you-finally-heal","published_at":"2026-06-14T20:45:27+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-mental-healness-podcast-526019/why-toxic-exes-pop-back-up-when-you-finally-heal","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-mental-healness-podcast-526019","url":"https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mentalhealness/episodes/Why-Toxic-Exes-Pop-Back-Up-When-You-Finally-Heal-e3kpjhj","audio_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/cd15a2c/podcast/play/121474035/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-5-14%2F426134218-44100-2-d63ecbdbac468.mp3","summary":"Why do toxic exes, narcissists, and high-conflict people always come back right when you're finally healing? In this video, I break down the psychology behind the "hoover" — the manipulation tactic narcissists use to pull you back into the abuse cycle — and explain exactly why your healing process is what triggers them the most.When you start to heal, your energy shifts. You stop reacting the way they expect. You stop feeding them the emotional supply they rely on. You start building boundaries. And that terrifies them. So they come back — not because they love you, but because they've lost control. Connect with Lee: My Courses: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://courses.mentalhealness.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://link.me/mentalhealness ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ All My Link: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://beacons.page/mentalhealness ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss","meta_description":"Why do toxic exes, narcissists, and high-conflict people always come back right when you're finally healing? In this video, I break down the psychology be…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":906,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/the-mental-healness-podcast-526019/episodes/why-toxic-exes-pop-back-up-when-you-finally-heal/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-mental-healness-podcast-526019/why-toxic-exes-pop-back-up-when-you-finally-heal.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}