{"podcast":{"title":"The Mel Robbins Podcast","slug":"the-mel-robbins-podcast-5698881","podcast_index_feed_id":5698881,"rss_url":"https://feeds.simplecast.com/UCwaTX1J","website_url":"https://www.siriusxm.com","image_url":"https://image.simplecastcdn.com/images/8436e3c1-2479-4466-ac48-fa58259960bb/7723b0c5-0da6-4cbc-b482-26e1e19ffddd/3000x3000/sxm-cover-melrobbins-r2025-3000x3000-final-white.jpg?aid=rss_feed","author":"SiriusXM Podcasts","episode_count":420,"summary":"You can change your life and Mel Robbins will show you how. The Mel Robbins Podcast is the #1 podcast on the globe for a reason: Mel’s simple, research-backed advice has changed millions of people’s lives, and in every episode, she’s giving you all her hard-fought secrets, science-backed tools, and deeply personal stories, so you can change yours too. If you’re a new listener, you’re in the right place. Every episode will empower you to create a better life and help you take a step toward the life you want. Want more? Follow along at @melrobbins Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes of The Mel Robbins Podcast ad-free. Start a free trial now on Apple Podcasts or by visiting siriusxm.com/podcastsplus.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-30T14:18:49.393875+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast-5698881"},"episode":{"title":"The Reality of Adult Friendship: Here’s Why You’re Lonely & How to Make Real Friends as an Adult","slug":"the-reality-of-adult-friendship-here-s-why-you-re-lonely-how-to-make-real-friends-as-an-adult","published_at":"2026-05-07T04:05:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast-5698881/the-reality-of-adult-friendship-here-s-why-you-re-lonely-how-to-make-real-friends-as-an-adult","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast-5698881","url":"https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-393","audio_url":"https://dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/pdst.fm/e/stitcher.simplecastaudio.com/b9de9f5f-6dab-4833-b4c2-05f1d28dd998/episodes/bd34f83f-9e96-4ca8-be45-4784d3938f6a/audio/128/default.mp3?aid=rss_feed&awCollectionId=b9de9f5f-6dab-4833-b4c2-05f1d28dd998&awEpisodeId=bd34f83f-9e96-4ca8-be45-4784d3938f6a&feed=UCwaTX1J","summary":"If you’ve ever felt like making friends as an adult feels impossible, or you’ve looked around and thought, \"Where did all my friends go?\" – you are not alone. Or maybe you have friends, and you want deeper connections, but you don’t know how to create it without forcing it. Friendship is hard right now. Which is why today, Mel is sitting down with Harvard-trained social scientist and bestselling author, Kasley Killam, who has spent the last 15 years researching friendship, connection, and loneliness. Have you ever wondered why the friendships that once felt close now feel distant? Why you genuinely want to see people more, but somehow always end up canceling? Or why making new friends as an adult feels so forced and exhausting when it never used to? There's a reason for all of that. And today, Kasley is giving you the answer. She is also raising the stakes on friendship and explaining why social health is the missing key to living a longer, healthier, and happier life. Kasley has conducted positive psychology research at the University of Pennsylvania and launched an award-winning initiative at Stanford that promotes empathy and kindness. And in this conversation, she’s here to clear up the confusion, cut through the excuses, and give you the tools that make connection feel doable again. You’ll also learn the 4 friendship styles - and identify which one you are - so you’ll finally understand why friendship drains you, why it feels easy for some people, and what you specifically need to create the relationships you want. In this episode, you’ll learn: -Why adult friendship feels so hard (and how to make it easier) -Why social health is a missing pillar of well-being -The Excuse vs. Need framework for connection -The Swap Strategy to feel less lonely, fast -The 5-3-1 Rul…","meta_description":"If you’ve ever felt like making friends as an adult feels impossible, or you’ve looked around and thought, \"Where did all my friends go?\" – you are not al…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":4753,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/the-mel-robbins-podcast-5698881/episodes/the-reality-of-adult-friendship-here-s-why-you-re-lonely-how-to-make-real-friends-as-an-adult/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast-5698881/the-reality-of-adult-friendship-here-s-why-you-re-lonely-how-to-make-real-friends-as-an-adult.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}