{"podcast":{"title":"The Kink Consultant","slug":"the-kink-consultant-7008231","podcast_index_feed_id":7008231,"rss_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/faa89760/podcast/rss","website_url":"https://thekinkconsultant.com/","image_url":"https://d3t3ozftmdmh3i.cloudfront.net/staging/podcast_uploaded_nologo/41953528/41953528-1755098082449-65db4b7abf064.jpg","author":"Amanda Dames, The Kink Consultant","episode_count":96,"summary":"Welcome to The Kink Consultant podcast, where we’re turning up the heat on all things kink in dating, relationships, and pop culture! Join Amanda each week as she dishes out the juiciest stories, expert advice, and shares a sneak peek behind the bedroom door—with some amazing guests along for the ride. Whether you're just a little kink-curious, ready to spice things up, or a seasoned pro, there's something here for you! Expect fun, laughter, and a whole lot of eye-opening conversations as we explore the wild world of intimacy, kink, and those oh-so-intriguing D/s dynamics.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-31T00:20:07.834133+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-kink-consultant-7008231"},"episode":{"title":"The Life And Loves Of A Sex Writer with Gabrielle Cassel","slug":"the-life-and-loves-of-a-sex-writer-with-gabrielle-cassel","published_at":"2026-05-01T00:55:28+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-kink-consultant-7008231/the-life-and-loves-of-a-sex-writer-with-gabrielle-cassel","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-kink-consultant-7008231","url":"https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/the-kink-consultant/episodes/The-Life-And-Loves-Of-A-Sex-Writer-with-Gabrielle-Cassel-e3inopk","audio_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/faa89760/podcast/play/119316724/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-4-1%2F423240806-44100-2-353b7784099a3.mp3","summary":"You’d think being a sex writer would make dating easier, right? Apparently not. In this episode, I sit down with Gabrielle Cassel, a queer sex and wellness journalist whose work you’ve probably read in Cosmopolitan, GQ, Women’s Health , and more. We start with the article that hit a little too close to home, why being a sex educator can actually make dating harder, not easier. Gabrielle shares what it’s like to be either instantly oversexualised or immediately written off the second someone finds out what she does, and how that completely changes the dynamic before it even begins. We get into the reality of dating when people project their fantasies onto you, assume what you’re into, or decide they’re not “enough” before even getting to know you Gabrielle also shares about her journey from identifying as lesbian to bisexual, how attraction can evolve in ways you don’t expect, and why your sexuality is so much bigger than just who you’re attracted to. We unpack the pressure to explain yourself, the importance of curiosity in connection, and why your career, your desires, and your identity don’t have to make sense to anyone else to be valid. If you’ve ever felt misunderstood in dating, boxed in by assumptions, or like you’re constantly having to “explain yourself” just to be seen, this one is going to hit. Read Gabrielle’s article here: https://www.cosmopolitan.com/lifestyle/a70484661/sex-writer-dating-struggle-sex-therapy/ Connect with Gabrielle: https://www.instagram.com/gabriellekassel/ Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and…","meta_description":"You’d think being a sex writer would make dating easier, right? Apparently not. In this episode, I sit down with Gabrielle Cassel, a queer sex and wellnes…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2257,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/the-kink-consultant-7008231/episodes/the-life-and-loves-of-a-sex-writer-with-gabrielle-cassel/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-kink-consultant-7008231/the-life-and-loves-of-a-sex-writer-with-gabrielle-cassel.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}