{"podcast":{"title":"The Jayson Gaddis Podcast","slug":"the-jayson-gaddis-podcast-745455","podcast_index_feed_id":745455,"rss_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/1034ef008/podcast/rss","website_url":"https://relationshipschool.com","image_url":"https://d3t3ozftmdmh3i.cloudfront.net/staging/podcast_uploaded_nologo/43404722/43404722-1772479501929-d6f3bd4f93209.jpg","author":"Jayson Gaddis","episode_count":562,"summary":"The Jayson Gaddis Podcast explores marriage, fatherhood, spirituality, and emotional and relational leadership. Hosted by Founder, high performance coach, and author Jayson Gaddis, who has spent 20+ years helping people transform their most important relationships.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-29T22:19:49.346921+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-jayson-gaddis-podcast-745455"},"episode":{"title":"Changing Your Wife to Get What You Want - Jayson Gaddis - 558","slug":"changing-your-wife-to-get-what-you-want-jayson-gaddis-558","published_at":"2026-04-07T11:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-jayson-gaddis-podcast-745455/changing-your-wife-to-get-what-you-want-jayson-gaddis-558","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-jayson-gaddis-podcast-745455","url":"https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jaysongaddis/episodes/Changing-Your-Wife-to-Get-What-You-Want---Jayson-Gaddis---558-e3h8o82","audio_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/1034ef008/podcast/play/117776066/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-3-1%2F421167697-44100-2-69679be95a207.mp3","summary":"Why does trying to change your partner backfire? Jayson breaks down what happens when you try to get your wife to change when she does not want to, and how unmet expectations turn into resentment. He explains the arrogance behind trying to shape your partner, why behavior change requests often miss the point, and what it actually means to love someone as they are. If you keep pushing for change and not getting it, this episode is for you. Timestamps: 2:53 - Trying to change a partner who doesn’t want to change 5:44 - Resentment from unmet expectations 8:49 - the arrogance of trying to change your partner 10:09 - Stop making behaviour change requests 11:44 - Trying to change someone is not loving them Links: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Jayson on social media: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠","meta_description":"Why does trying to change your partner backfire? Jayson breaks down what happens when you try to get your wife to change when she does not want to, and ho…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":824,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/the-jayson-gaddis-podcast-745455/episodes/changing-your-wife-to-get-what-you-want-jayson-gaddis-558/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-jayson-gaddis-podcast-745455/changing-your-wife-to-get-what-you-want-jayson-gaddis-558.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}