{"podcast":{"title":"The Ex-Good Girl Podcast","slug":"the-ex-good-girl-podcast-6037423","podcast_index_feed_id":6037423,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/the-ex-good-girl-podcast/","website_url":"https://www.sarafisk.coach/","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/673f6d3e-dacd-455a-87e0-4e826e719884/50e75e53-731f-486a-8d06-7fac81a48c27.jpg","author":"Sara Bybee Fisk","episode_count":181,"summary":"Welcome to the Ex Good Girl Podcast! I’m Sara Bybee Fisk, the Stop People Pleasing Coach. If you feel exhausted from constant people pleasing and perfectionism, and you are ready to stop but you don’t know how, this podcast is for YOU! I will help you learn to stop making other people comfortable at your own expense. I can show you a roadmap you can use to train yourself to stop abandoning your own desires and let go of the fear of what others will think. If you are ready to stop pretending everything is fine, get out of the cycle of doubt, guilt, and resentment AND step into a life of power and freedom, I can help!","last_synced_at":"2026-07-30T00:17:11.170347+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-ex-good-girl-podcast-6037423"},"episode":{"title":"Episode 165 - The Good Girl Rules are a High-Demand System","slug":"episode-165-the-good-girl-rules-are-a-high-demand-system","published_at":"2026-06-03T19:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-ex-good-girl-podcast-6037423/episode-165-the-good-girl-rules-are-a-high-demand-system","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-ex-good-girl-podcast-6037423","url":"https://www.sarafisk.coach/","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/09bebc34-6a9b-4ab2-a33f-edca634ff6e7.mp3","summary":"A high-demand system is any structure that requires a significant amount of your time, energy, and identity in exchange for belonging. We often think about high-demand religions, workplaces, families, or cultures, but there is one system that is hard to recognize because it’s so ingrained in society that it just feels like the way things are supposed to be: the good girl rules. The unspoken expectations women absorb throughout their lives function like any other high-demand system. They reward compliance, create fear around stepping outside the rules, and keep us so focused on being good enough that we never get the chance to fully discover who we are. But understanding the systems we live in is the first step toward finding our way back to ourselves. Here’s what I cover: The characteristics that most high-demand systems have in common How high-demand systems reward compliance and discourage deviation from the rules Examples of high-demand systems and the ways they shape identity and belonging Three of the biggest things women lose when living by the good girl rules Questions to help you examine the systems you live in and what they may cost you Find Sara here: sarafisk.coach pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations instagram.com/sarafiskcoach facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333","meta_description":"A high-demand system is any structure that requires a significant amount of your time, energy, and identity in exchange for belonging. We often think abou…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2230,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/the-ex-good-girl-podcast-6037423/episodes/episode-165-the-good-girl-rules-are-a-high-demand-system/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-ex-good-girl-podcast-6037423/episode-165-the-good-girl-rules-are-a-high-demand-system.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}