{"podcast":{"title":"The Dr. Laura Podcast","slug":"the-dr-laura-podcast-317954","podcast_index_feed_id":317954,"rss_url":"https://feeds.simplecast.com/ZTNLWlKG","website_url":"https://www.siriusxm.com","image_url":"https://image.simplecastcdn.com/images/1e4fe9ff-e101-46c8-b11a-a929d5357642/7fec0def-bb71-4009-8bf6-0c8a3705ef56/3000x3000/the-20dr-20laura-20podcast-203kx3k.jpg?aid=rss_feed","author":"Dr. Laura Schlessinger & SiriusXM","episode_count":3292,"summary":"My Call of the Day is now “The Dr. Laura Podcast” - Dr. Laura is in. Every day. No charge. I’m sharing my take on pressing issues, enlightening research on human behavior, answering questions I get by email, and my favorite, most instructive interactions with callers. Everything you’ll hear is designed to help you become a better spouse, parent, family member, co-worker, friend, and human being. It’s the free therapy you need! 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