{"podcast":{"title":"The Best of You","slug":"the-best-of-you-5434878","podcast_index_feed_id":5434878,"rss_url":"https://feeds.megaphone.fm/TSF6018604298","website_url":"https://www.alisoncookphd.com/","image_url":"https://megaphone.imgix.net/podcasts/bce7efe6-a03f-11ee-8c9f-774bed44a0bf/image/fc2ae1c482ec1458c40205cd8f979641.png?ixlib=rails-4.3.1&max-w=3000&max-h=3000&fit=crop&auto=format,compress","author":"Dr. Alison Cook","episode_count":344,"summary":"Join therapist and author, Dr. Alison Cook, as she guides you through some of your toughest challenges with wisdom, kindness, and grace. Together with friends and experts we'll unpack the best of psychology from a faith-based perspective. You’ll discover how to break free from painful patterns, mend your past, and discover what brings out the best of you.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-30T18:19:05.176079+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-best-of-you-5434878"},"episode":{"title":"How to Love Someone Without Trying to Control Them","slug":"how-to-love-someone-without-trying-to-control-them","published_at":"2026-07-07T09:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-best-of-you-5434878/how-to-love-someone-without-trying-to-control-them","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-best-of-you-5434878","url":"https://pdst.fm/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/arttrk.com/p/TSFL1/claritaspod.com/measure/traffic.megaphone.fm/AMPH6393254375.mp3","audio_url":"https://pdst.fm/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/arttrk.com/p/TSFL1/claritaspod.com/measure/traffic.megaphone.fm/AMPH6393254375.mp3","summary":"Today's Scripture: Luke 13:34–35 **Today's devotional is in response to listener requests.**What do you do when someone you love will not come close, receive help, or change the pattern that is hurting them? Today’s Scripture gives us a tender and honest picture of Jesus longing to gather Jerusalem like a hen gathers her chicks —and grieving that they were not willing. This episode helps you love deeply without overfunctioning, chasing, fixing, or taking responsibility for someone else’s response. You’ll learn: *Why love can be fully offered and still refused*How overfunctioning often grows out of anxiety and attachment distress*Why Jesus grieves without controlling*The difference between loving someone and becoming responsible for their agency*How to love with both tenderness and limits Go Deeper: Pre-order The Secure Soul and learn how to recognize the controller part of you that’s trying to help — and return it to love. Connect with Dr. Alison on Instagram: @dralisoncook Join 80,000+ Soul Menders in Dr. Alison’s free email community for ongoing reflection and support. While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.‍ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices","meta_description":"Today's Scripture: Luke 13:34–35 **Today's devotional is in response to listener requests.**What do you do when someone you love will not come close, rece…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":563,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/the-best-of-you-5434878/episodes/how-to-love-someone-without-trying-to-control-them/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-best-of-you-5434878/how-to-love-someone-without-trying-to-control-them.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}