{"podcast":{"title":"The Angry Therapist Podcast","slug":"the-angry-therapist-podcast-743385","podcast_index_feed_id":743385,"rss_url":"https://feeds.megaphone.fm/IRGTI6276191034","website_url":"https://www.theangrytherapist.com/","image_url":"https://megaphone.imgix.net/podcasts/c8ebfd38-e2dd-11ee-ba15-ef82cfe45260/image/acdc4d838b722a2620085ed7ae899064.png?ixlib=rails-4.3.1&max-w=3000&max-h=3000&fit=crop&auto=format,compress","author":"John Kim","episode_count":996,"summary":"Audio-Only Episodes. Captain’s Log: No guests. No fluff. Just me, the mic, and whatever’s clawing at my insides. Think audio journaling meets back-of-the-bar confessions. Less psychobabble, more soul bleed. Raw, real, and mostly for me. Audio + Video Episodes. You ask, I riff. Therapy meets real talk. More structure, more insight, more of the good stuff on love, dating, and tools we need to build a healthy relationship. Awesome guests. Less navel-gazing, more crowd-serving. This one’s for you.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-06T14:20:49.423683+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-angry-therapist-podcast-743385"},"episode":{"title":"How Past Wounds Distort Your Definition of Love","slug":"how-past-wounds-distort-your-definition-of-love","published_at":"2026-04-08T07:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-angry-therapist-podcast-743385/how-past-wounds-distort-your-definition-of-love","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-angry-therapist-podcast-743385","url":"https://pdst.fm/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/mgln.ai/e/441/traffic.megaphone.fm/BVLLC5097994840.mp3?updated=1775659442","audio_url":"https://pdst.fm/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/mgln.ai/e/441/traffic.megaphone.fm/BVLLC5097994840.mp3?updated=1775659442","summary":"How do childhood wounds, past relationships, and old emotional patterns shape your definition of love? In this episode, John Kim explores how relationship residue turns into distorted definitions of love. He breaks down how early experiences, family dynamics, unhealthy conflict, self-sacrifice, and internalized pain can create a damaging love blueprint that follows us into adulthood. John unpacks the unhealthy ways many people define love, including love as self-sacrifice, possession, completion, and dependency. He explains how these distorted beliefs can lead to codependency, control, unrealistic expectations, self-abandonment, and unhealthy relationship patterns. He also shares how heartbreak, expired relationships, and self-awareness can become a corrective love experience that helps you redefine love in a healthier way. Instead of losing yourself in romance, healthy love is built through interdependence, communication, compassion, conflict repair, individuality, and emotional growth. If you’ve ever struggled with attachment wounds, toxic relationship patterns, fear of abandonment, or confusion about what real love looks like, this episode will help you question the definitions you inherited and create a healthier, more grounded version of love. 🎙️ Host Links: 📘Pre order my new book, Love Hard On Purpose. Toss the blueprints. Build something honest. https://a.co/d/031PzkW4 📘 Read John’s book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You on John’s SubStack ⁠HERE⁠ If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices","meta_description":"How do childhood wounds, past relationships, and old emotional patterns shape your definition of love? In this episode, John Kim explores how relationship…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1562,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/the-angry-therapist-podcast-743385/episodes/how-past-wounds-distort-your-definition-of-love/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-angry-therapist-podcast-743385/how-past-wounds-distort-your-definition-of-love.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}