{"podcast":{"title":"The Angry Therapist Podcast","slug":"the-angry-therapist-podcast-743385","podcast_index_feed_id":743385,"rss_url":"https://feeds.megaphone.fm/IRGTI6276191034","website_url":"https://www.theangrytherapist.com/","image_url":"https://megaphone.imgix.net/podcasts/c8ebfd38-e2dd-11ee-ba15-ef82cfe45260/image/acdc4d838b722a2620085ed7ae899064.png?ixlib=rails-4.3.1&max-w=3000&max-h=3000&fit=crop&auto=format,compress","author":"John Kim","episode_count":996,"summary":"Audio-Only Episodes. Captain’s Log: No guests. No fluff. Just me, the mic, and whatever’s clawing at my insides. Think audio journaling meets back-of-the-bar confessions. Less psychobabble, more soul bleed. Raw, real, and mostly for me. Audio + Video Episodes. You ask, I riff. Therapy meets real talk. More structure, more insight, more of the good stuff on love, dating, and tools we need to build a healthy relationship. Awesome guests. Less navel-gazing, more crowd-serving. This one’s for you.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-06T14:20:49.423683+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-angry-therapist-podcast-743385"},"episode":{"title":"Dating Smarter, Not Harder with Amy Chan","slug":"dating-smarter-not-harder-with-amy-chan","published_at":"2026-04-20T07:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-angry-therapist-podcast-743385/dating-smarter-not-harder-with-amy-chan","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-angry-therapist-podcast-743385","url":"https://pdst.fm/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/mgln.ai/e/441/traffic.megaphone.fm/BVLLC1267162865.mp3?updated=1776354786","audio_url":"https://pdst.fm/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/mgln.ai/e/441/traffic.megaphone.fm/BVLLC1267162865.mp3?updated=1776354786","summary":"In this episode, John Kim sits down with relationship expert and author Amy Chan to talk about dating patterns, childhood wounds, grief, commitment, and what it really takes to build healthy love. Amy shares how the sudden loss of a close friend changed the way she thinks about relationships and why creating core memories with the people you love matters more than convenience. John opens up about how losing his home reshaped his idea of freedom, home, and what truly matters. Together, they explore how childhood neglect, validation-seeking, and old survival strategies continue to shape adult dating patterns. They also break down Amy’s framework for dating smarter, including how to spot where your dating life gets stuck, why apps should not be your only strategy, and how your energy affects connection. They talk about dopamine, fantasy, and why the first three months of dating can be misleading. Later, they unpack commitment, unrealistic expectations, relationship trade-offs, triggers, repair, and emotional safety. Amy explains her “Sh*t Bucket” concept and why healthy love is not about finding a perfect partner, but choosing someone whose imperfections you can actually live with. They close with a hopeful reminder: love is hard, but it is still worth building. In this episode: (00:00) The real reason your dating life keeps repeating(00:29) Grief changed how Amy thinks about love(02:09) John’s life after losing home and redefining freedom(03:15) Amy Chan on dating smarter and finding lasting love(05:03) The childhood wounds behind adult relationship patterns(10:29) The patterns sabotaging your love life(14:24) People can feel your dating energy(16:15) Why the first 3 months can fool you(20:02) Why love only grows when you go all in(23:30) Social media is warping our expe…","meta_description":"In this episode, John Kim sits down with relationship expert and author Amy Chan to talk about dating patterns, childhood wounds, grief, commitment, and w…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2912,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/the-angry-therapist-podcast-743385/episodes/dating-smarter-not-harder-with-amy-chan/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-angry-therapist-podcast-743385/dating-smarter-not-harder-with-amy-chan.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}