{"podcast":{"title":"The Addicted Mind Podcast","slug":"the-addicted-mind-podcast-444279","podcast_index_feed_id":444279,"rss_url":"https://rss.art19.com/the-addicted-mind","website_url":"https://art19.com/shows/the-addicted-mind","image_url":"https://content.production.cdn.art19.com/images/dd/ac/a7/38/ddaca738-b186-42db-a080-47f391390bde/afe90945cf697f161594043b48ab8bc1b5e4dc05c0a3d762bc1a08710ecf72408e72e99de0bdefad948634d00d26a6e2cbc1b1519fc8f76bd72b204aa7cf290a.jpeg","author":"Duane Osterlind, LMFT","episode_count":504,"summary":"\"The Addicted Mind Podcast\" offers hope, understanding, and guidance for those dealing with addiction, with real stories and research to inspire and show the journey to recovery is worth it. We're here to do more than just talk about addiction. We want to show you how to heal and recover. Our talks with experts and people who have beaten addiction give you important insights into how addiction affects the mind and how recovery can happen in many ways. Whether we're looking at new treatment ideas or sharing stories that inspire, \"The Addicted Mind Podcast\" is all about understanding the complex world of addiction recovery and showing that recovery is possible. If you or someone you care about is dealing with the challenges of addiction, let \"The Addicted Mind Podcast\" be your friend and guide. We aim to give you the knowledge you need, share stories that inspire you, and show you that the journey to recovery is worth it. Subscribe now to be part of a community focused on learning, healing, and changing for the better. Your journey to a healthier mind and life begins right here.","last_synced_at":"2026-06-18T20:20:01.494829+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-addicted-mind-podcast-444279"},"episode":{"title":"Episode 381: The Neurobiology of Betrayal: Why Trust Shatters and How to Rebuild with Dr. Stan Tatkin","slug":"episode-381-the-neurobiology-of-betrayal-why-trust-shatters-and-how-to-rebuild-with-dr-stan-tatkin","published_at":"2026-04-27T07:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-addicted-mind-podcast-444279/episode-381-the-neurobiology-of-betrayal-why-trust-shatters-and-how-to-rebuild-with-dr-stan-tatkin","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-addicted-mind-podcast-444279","url":"https://rss.art19.com/episodes/ad017c41-1f70-45ca-a43e-aeef9e0570d8.mp3?rss_browser=BAhJIg90cmFuc2NyaWJyBjoGRVQ%3D--952c5701c84ad333c69d5faa668f8177091704f0","audio_url":"https://rss.art19.com/episodes/ad017c41-1f70-45ca-a43e-aeef9e0570d8.mp3?rss_browser=BAhJIg90cmFuc2NyaWJyBjoGRVQ%3D--952c5701c84ad333c69d5faa668f8177091704f0","summary":"This episode features a deep dive into the complex neurobiology of betrayal with Dr. Stan Tatkin , the developer of PACT (A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy). Hosted by Duane Osterlind, the conversation explores why betrayal feels like an existential threat, the role of shame in stalling recovery, and the \"hard pills\" that must be swallowed for true relationship restoration. The Anatomy of Betrayal Betrayal is often misunderstood as simply a sexual or financial act. Dr. Tatkin defines it more deeply as the violation of the free flow of vital information . Identity Shattering: When vital information is withheld, the discovery partner's entire history, identity, and sense of reality are retroactively altered. The \"Secret Basement\": Engaging in deceptive behaviors creates a psychological \"basement\" that triggers a \"sleeping with the enemy\" dynamic once revealed. The Neurobiology of Discovery The brain of a betrayed partner enters a state of Post-Traumatic Stress (PTSD) . Automatic Re-sorting: For approximately one year after discovery, the brain will automatically resort every past memory to fit the new data—this happens without the person’s permission . Hypervigilance: Because the \"safe\" environment (the partner) has become a \"threat\" environment, the survival system remains stuck in the \"on\" position. The \"Distancing\" Betrayer Dr. Tatkin notes that a large majority of \"secret keepers\" fall into the avoidant/distancing attachment group . Adaptation over Choice: Avoidant behaviors often stem from early childhood neglect where the infant learned to \"auto-regulate\" through fantasy and compartmentalization rather than seeking comfort from others. 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