{"podcast":{"title":"Softly Unfiltered","slug":"suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865","podcast_index_feed_id":7091865,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/softly-unfiltered/","website_url":"https://softlyunfiltered.com","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/802cdc3b-abe7-4334-a6e5-3935a9521a2f/SEASON-2-updated.jpg","author":"Ashlyn & Blake","episode_count":87,"summary":"Hosted by Ashlyn and Blake, two multifaceted Black women based in Houston, Softly Unfiltered is where soft meets honest. Each week, we get real about personal growth, healing, navigating corporate America, and the messy, funny, and complex realities of modern dating. From breaking generational cycles to finding our voice in spaces that weren't built for us, our conversations blend honesty, humor, and hard truths—all rooted in our lived experiences. Whether we're swapping stories, tackling trending topics, or unpacking the unspoken rules of friendship, relationships, beauty, ambition, and womanhood, we're here to remind you that you can be soft and strong, ambitious and at peace, healed and still healing. If you've ever felt like you're balancing a hundred different versions of yourself, welcome. This is a space for the multifaceted girlies. Pull up a seat. The group chat is live. 💕 New episodes every Wednesday.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-09T10:19:48.162993+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865"},"episode":{"title":"You're Not Asking for Too Much, You're Just Done Settling | Standards vs. Settling","slug":"you-re-not-asking-for-too-much-you-re-just-done-settling-standards-vs-settling","published_at":"2026-06-17T09:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865/you-re-not-asking-for-too-much-you-re-just-done-settling-standards-vs-settling","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865","url":"https://softlyunfiltered.com","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/82577d39-0211-4e53-b035-a8690883182b.mp3","summary":"In this episode Blake and Ashlyn are getting into something a lot of women have felt but couldn't always name. The difference between being fed up and being truly done. What settling actually looks like in real life, not the dramatic version but the quiet everyday version where you're pretending you're happy and dimming your light to keep the peace. And why you were never asking for too much. You were just finally asking the right questions. We got into: Why people stop benefiting from you when you stop playing small and why raising your standards exposes who was never enough What the word done actually means when a woman says it and why disgust is the turning point that has no return What settling looks like in real life including protecting him more than you protect yourself Why the rules of this world were not built with Black women in mind and why your timeline is yours alone The three table relationship concept and why Blake does not want to become enmeshed in a partnership Why shame in your relationship is already the answer and the reality TV test that tells you everything What being done settling actually means and why it has nothing to do with giving up on love Mantra Moment: Being done settling doesn't mean you're giving all hope up of love. It means you're done ignoring your intuition. If this episode resonated drop a comment and let us know what being done settling looks like for you. 📩 Email us: SuburbanBlackGirlPod@gmail.com 📱 Follow us on all platforms: @SuburbanBlackGirlPod ⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!","meta_description":"In this episode Blake and Ashlyn are getting into something a lot of women have felt but couldn't always name. The difference between being fed up and bei…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2063,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865/episodes/you-re-not-asking-for-too-much-you-re-just-done-settling-standards-vs-settling/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865/you-re-not-asking-for-too-much-you-re-just-done-settling-standards-vs-settling.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}