{"podcast":{"title":"Softly Unfiltered","slug":"suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865","podcast_index_feed_id":7091865,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/softly-unfiltered/","website_url":"https://softlyunfiltered.com","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/802cdc3b-abe7-4334-a6e5-3935a9521a2f/SEASON-2-updated.jpg","author":"Ashlyn & Blake","episode_count":87,"summary":"Hosted by Ashlyn and Blake, two multifaceted Black women based in Houston, Softly Unfiltered is where soft meets honest. Each week, we get real about personal growth, healing, navigating corporate America, and the messy, funny, and complex realities of modern dating. From breaking generational cycles to finding our voice in spaces that weren't built for us, our conversations blend honesty, humor, and hard truths—all rooted in our lived experiences. Whether we're swapping stories, tackling trending topics, or unpacking the unspoken rules of friendship, relationships, beauty, ambition, and womanhood, we're here to remind you that you can be soft and strong, ambitious and at peace, healed and still healing. If you've ever felt like you're balancing a hundred different versions of yourself, welcome. This is a space for the multifaceted girlies. Pull up a seat. The group chat is live. 💕 New episodes every Wednesday.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-09T10:19:48.162993+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865"},"episode":{"title":"You Can Be Confident and Still Have Low Self-Worth | Why We Accept Less Than We Deserve","slug":"you-can-be-confident-and-still-have-low-self-worth-why-we-accept-less-than-we-deserve","published_at":"2026-06-03T14:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865/you-can-be-confident-and-still-have-low-self-worth-why-we-accept-less-than-we-deserve","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865","url":"https://rss.com/podcasts/suburbanblackgirlpodcast/2877575","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/09e76fba-0dce-422c-97a4-6d50fcbf8359.mp3","summary":"In this episode Blake and Ashlyn are breaking down something that a lot of high achieving women have felt but could never fully name. You can be the most confident, accomplished, successful woman in the room and still not believe you deserve the things you have built. That is the difference between self-esteem and self-worth. And in this episode they get deeply personal about where that gap comes from and what closing it actually looks like. We got into: • The real difference between self-esteem and self-worth and why you can have one without the other • Why high achieving women often have the highest self-esteem and the lowest self-worth at the same time • How achieving becomes the substitute for worth and what happens when the wins stop coming • Blake asking herself what a less qualified white man would ask for in a salary negotiation and doing it anyway • How toxic relationships and corporate environments both slowly rewrite how you see yourself • Ashlyn opening up about a toxic relationship that took years to recover from and the stool that got moved • Why your blessings are sometimes blocked by the dead weight you haven't let go of yet • The mantra Blake gave herself in January that reframed everything Mantra Moment: I am worthy not because of what I do but because of who I am. The work is closing that gap. If this resonated drop a comment and let us know if you have ever realized you were confident on the outside but still accepting less than you deserved. 📩 Email us: SuburbanBlackGirlPod@gmail.com 📱 Follow us on all platforms: @SuburbanBlackGirlPod ⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!","meta_description":"In this episode Blake and Ashlyn are breaking down something that a lot of high achieving women have felt but could never fully name. You can be the most…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1927,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865/episodes/you-can-be-confident-and-still-have-low-self-worth-why-we-accept-less-than-we-deserve/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865/you-can-be-confident-and-still-have-low-self-worth-why-we-accept-less-than-we-deserve.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}