{"podcast":{"title":"Softly Unfiltered","slug":"suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865","podcast_index_feed_id":7091865,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/softly-unfiltered/","website_url":"https://softlyunfiltered.com","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/802cdc3b-abe7-4334-a6e5-3935a9521a2f/SEASON-2-updated.jpg","author":"Ashlyn & Blake","episode_count":87,"summary":"Hosted by Ashlyn and Blake, two multifaceted Black women based in Houston, Softly Unfiltered is where soft meets honest. Each week, we get real about personal growth, healing, navigating corporate America, and the messy, funny, and complex realities of modern dating. From breaking generational cycles to finding our voice in spaces that weren't built for us, our conversations blend honesty, humor, and hard truths—all rooted in our lived experiences. Whether we're swapping stories, tackling trending topics, or unpacking the unspoken rules of friendship, relationships, beauty, ambition, and womanhood, we're here to remind you that you can be soft and strong, ambitious and at peace, healed and still healing. If you've ever felt like you're balancing a hundred different versions of yourself, welcome. This is a space for the multifaceted girlies. Pull up a seat. The group chat is live. 💕 New episodes every Wednesday.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-09T10:19:48.162993+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865"},"episode":{"title":"Why Is Women’s Confidence Seen as Ego?","slug":"why-is-women-s-confidence-seen-as-ego","published_at":"2026-02-12T04:46:39+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865/why-is-women-s-confidence-seen-as-ego","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865","url":"https://rss.com/podcasts/suburbanblackgirlpodcast/2543313","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/3795e70d-8e25-408b-9d98-c2d190c9543e.mp3","summary":"In this episode, we’re getting into why women’s confidence gets mislabeled as “ego” and how that label quietly pressures us to shrink, soften, and apologize for simply knowing who we are. We talk about how insecurity shows up as projection, why confident people aren’t threatened by other confident people, and why “humility” is sometimes just code for likability and compliance. We cover: Why confidence is celebrated in men but questioned in women How “being chosen” conditioning (Disney, Bridgerton, the whole plot 😭) shapes how women move The “bean soup theory” + why strangers feel entitled to a vote on your lifeWhere the line is between confidence vs. cockiness (and why putting people down isn’t confidence) How this shows up at work: code-switching, tone policing, and trying to be “unproblematic” How it shows up in friendships: dimming your light, hesitating to share wins, and keeping the peace How it shows up in dating: hiding your lifestyle, shrinking your dreams, and choosing yourself anyway Why therapy helps you stop taking random opinions personally What actually boosts confidence (workouts, skincare, mental health, money, wisdom, hormones, vitamin D, reading)✨ Mantra Moment:Confidence isn’t ego — it’s clarity. Knowing who you are doesn’t require permission, and shrinking yourself to make others comfortable is not humility. If you’ve ever been called “intimidating,” “bougie,” or “unapproachable” just for existing… this one’s for you.","meta_description":"In this episode, we’re getting into why women’s confidence gets mislabeled as “ego” and how that label quietly pressures us to shrink, soften, and apologi…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2695,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865/episodes/why-is-women-s-confidence-seen-as-ego/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865/why-is-women-s-confidence-seen-as-ego.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}