{"podcast":{"title":"Softly Unfiltered","slug":"suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865","podcast_index_feed_id":7091865,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/softly-unfiltered/","website_url":"https://softlyunfiltered.com","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/802cdc3b-abe7-4334-a6e5-3935a9521a2f/SEASON-2-updated.jpg","author":"Ashlyn & Blake","episode_count":87,"summary":"Hosted by Ashlyn and Blake, two multifaceted Black women based in Houston, Softly Unfiltered is where soft meets honest. Each week, we get real about personal growth, healing, navigating corporate America, and the messy, funny, and complex realities of modern dating. From breaking generational cycles to finding our voice in spaces that weren't built for us, our conversations blend honesty, humor, and hard truths—all rooted in our lived experiences. Whether we're swapping stories, tackling trending topics, or unpacking the unspoken rules of friendship, relationships, beauty, ambition, and womanhood, we're here to remind you that you can be soft and strong, ambitious and at peace, healed and still healing. If you've ever felt like you're balancing a hundred different versions of yourself, welcome. This is a space for the multifaceted girlies. Pull up a seat. The group chat is live. 💕 New episodes every Wednesday.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-09T10:19:48.162993+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865"},"episode":{"title":"The Money Talk Nobody Wants to Have About Dating | Standards, Finances and Compatibility","slug":"the-money-talk-nobody-wants-to-have-about-dating-standards-finances-and-compatibility","published_at":"2026-04-29T09:51:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865/the-money-talk-nobody-wants-to-have-about-dating-standards-finances-and-compatibility","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865","url":"https://rss.com/podcasts/suburbanblackgirlpodcast/2777007","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/b5dde55b-627e-4492-a737-ba0705ba0c2c.mp3","summary":"In this episode we are getting into the money talk nobody actually wants to have about dating. We are talking about financial expectations, effort and intention, and whether the real issue is men being under prepared or women raising their standards as they level up. We also get into the transactional nature of all relationships, why equally yoked has to mean more than just financially, and whether high standards are really entitlement or just incompatibility. We got into: • Whether dating standards have actually increased or women are just finally being honest • The question every financially independent woman is asking: can you do for me what I do for myself? • Why relationships are transactional and why pretending they aren't is how you end up pouring into the wrong person • The TikTok story about the non-refundable flight, the nails, and why people got it wrong • Why money on a dinner date is the easiest flex and not a real measure of compatibility • The gap between how women show up for their friends versus how men show up in relationships • Whether men are financially inadequate or just resistant to showing up for women they don't value ✨Mantra Moment: Standards are not a price tag. They are a reflection of values. If this resonated, drop a comment and let us know if you've ever realized you weren't asking for too much, you were just asking the wrong person. 📩 Email us: ⁠SuburbanBlackGirlPod@gmail.com⁠ 📱 Follow us on all platforms: @SuburbanBlackGirlPod ⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!","meta_description":"In this episode we are getting into the money talk nobody actually wants to have about dating. We are talking about financial expectations, effort and int…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2182,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865/episodes/the-money-talk-nobody-wants-to-have-about-dating-standards-finances-and-compatibility/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865/the-money-talk-nobody-wants-to-have-about-dating-standards-finances-and-compatibility.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}