{"podcast":{"title":"Softly Unfiltered","slug":"suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865","podcast_index_feed_id":7091865,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/softly-unfiltered/","website_url":"https://softlyunfiltered.com","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/802cdc3b-abe7-4334-a6e5-3935a9521a2f/SEASON-2-updated.jpg","author":"Ashlyn & Blake","episode_count":87,"summary":"Hosted by Ashlyn and Blake, two multifaceted Black women based in Houston, Softly Unfiltered is where soft meets honest. Each week, we get real about personal growth, healing, navigating corporate America, and the messy, funny, and complex realities of modern dating. From breaking generational cycles to finding our voice in spaces that weren't built for us, our conversations blend honesty, humor, and hard truths—all rooted in our lived experiences. Whether we're swapping stories, tackling trending topics, or unpacking the unspoken rules of friendship, relationships, beauty, ambition, and womanhood, we're here to remind you that you can be soft and strong, ambitious and at peace, healed and still healing. If you've ever felt like you're balancing a hundred different versions of yourself, welcome. This is a space for the multifaceted girlies. Pull up a seat. The group chat is live. 💕 New episodes every Wednesday.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-09T10:19:48.162993+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865"},"episode":{"title":"Should Black Women Stop Dating Men Who Grew Up on Survival Until They Go to Therapy?","slug":"should-black-women-stop-dating-men-who-grew-up-on-survival-until-they-go-to-therapy","published_at":"2026-03-18T14:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865/should-black-women-stop-dating-men-who-grew-up-on-survival-until-they-go-to-therapy","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865","url":"https://rss.com/podcasts/suburbanblackgirlpodcast/2635169","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/ff970616-5ed1-4d8b-901a-128826b1746a.mp3","summary":"What happens when one person has done the work and the other hasn't even started? This week we're getting into a conversation that so many women are having behind closed doors but not enough people are saying out loud. In this episode we talk about: • Why survival mode shows up in dating and kills emotional intimacy • The difference between being a supportive partner and mothering a grown man • How struggle love culture removes accountability from men and puts pressure on women • What it actually feels like to be hypervigilant in a relationship and how it affects your health • Why your body always remembers even when your heart wants to forgive • Whether requiring therapy is a boundary or unrealistic • How some men weaponize therapy language instead of actually doing the work • The role mothers play in holding or not holding their sons accountable • Why more women are choosing to be single and why that's perfectly okay This episode is for every woman who has ever questioned whether she was asking for too much. Spoiler: you're not. ✨ Mantra Moment: Love should not require you to heal someone else. Black women should be allowed to choose someone who is actively doing the same work that they are and not be guilted for it. Growing up in survival mode can absolutely explain behavior, but what are you doing about it? 📩 Email us: SuburbanBlackGirlPod@gmail.com 📱 Follow us on all platforms: @SuburbanBlackGirlPod ⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts and Spotify","meta_description":"What happens when one person has done the work and the other hasn't even started? This week we're getting into a conversation that so many women are havin…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2440,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865/episodes/should-black-women-stop-dating-men-who-grew-up-on-survival-until-they-go-to-therapy/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865/should-black-women-stop-dating-men-who-grew-up-on-survival-until-they-go-to-therapy.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}