{"podcast":{"title":"Softly Unfiltered","slug":"suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865","podcast_index_feed_id":7091865,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/softly-unfiltered/","website_url":"https://softlyunfiltered.com","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/802cdc3b-abe7-4334-a6e5-3935a9521a2f/SEASON-2-updated.jpg","author":"Ashlyn & Blake","episode_count":87,"summary":"Hosted by Ashlyn and Blake, two multifaceted Black women based in Houston, Softly Unfiltered is where soft meets honest. Each week, we get real about personal growth, healing, navigating corporate America, and the messy, funny, and complex realities of modern dating. From breaking generational cycles to finding our voice in spaces that weren't built for us, our conversations blend honesty, humor, and hard truths—all rooted in our lived experiences. Whether we're swapping stories, tackling trending topics, or unpacking the unspoken rules of friendship, relationships, beauty, ambition, and womanhood, we're here to remind you that you can be soft and strong, ambitious and at peace, healed and still healing. If you've ever felt like you're balancing a hundred different versions of yourself, welcome. This is a space for the multifaceted girlies. Pull up a seat. The group chat is live. 💕 New episodes every Wednesday.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-09T10:19:48.162993+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865"},"episode":{"title":"Is Taking Things Slow Healthy or Avoidant?","slug":"is-taking-things-slow-healthy-or-avoidant","published_at":"2026-04-01T14:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865/is-taking-things-slow-healthy-or-avoidant","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865","url":"https://rss.com/podcasts/suburbanblackgirlpodcast/2670237","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/f34bb081-85ed-4977-b918-7555a42c4b79.mp3","summary":"In this episode, we’re talking about one of the biggest gray areas in modern dating: taking things slow. Is it emotional maturity and healthy pacing, or is it just avoidance dressed up as self awareness? We unpack the difference between intentional slowness and prolonged confusion, why so many people benefit from undefined timelines, and how easy it is to get stuck in situationships that look deep but never actually move forward. We also get into: • How to tell the difference between healthy pacing and emotional avoidance • Why no title often means no accountability • Why some people want access without offering commitment • How ego can keep you stuck trying to be chosen • Why women need boundaries more than repeated conversations • Love bombing, future faking, and men showing up as their representative • Why taking things slow can sometimes be about emotional safety and literal safety ✨ Mantra Moment: Moving with intention doesn’t require rushing, but it does require honesty. Emotional safety should create clarity, not confusion or prolonged uncertainty. If this episode hit home, let us know in the comments what your experience has been with “taking it slow” in dating. 📩 Email us: SuburbanBlackGirlPod@gmail.com 📱 Follow us on all platforms: @SuburbanBlackGirlPod ⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts and Spotify","meta_description":"In this episode, we’re talking about one of the biggest gray areas in modern dating: taking things slow. Is it emotional maturity and healthy pacing, or i…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1517,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865/episodes/is-taking-things-slow-healthy-or-avoidant/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865/is-taking-things-slow-healthy-or-avoidant.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}