{"podcast":{"title":"Softly Unfiltered","slug":"suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865","podcast_index_feed_id":7091865,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/softly-unfiltered/","website_url":"https://softlyunfiltered.com","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/802cdc3b-abe7-4334-a6e5-3935a9521a2f/SEASON-2-updated.jpg","author":"Ashlyn & Blake","episode_count":87,"summary":"Hosted by Ashlyn and Blake, two multifaceted Black women based in Houston, Softly Unfiltered is where soft meets honest. Each week, we get real about personal growth, healing, navigating corporate America, and the messy, funny, and complex realities of modern dating. From breaking generational cycles to finding our voice in spaces that weren't built for us, our conversations blend honesty, humor, and hard truths—all rooted in our lived experiences. Whether we're swapping stories, tackling trending topics, or unpacking the unspoken rules of friendship, relationships, beauty, ambition, and womanhood, we're here to remind you that you can be soft and strong, ambitious and at peace, healed and still healing. If you've ever felt like you're balancing a hundred different versions of yourself, welcome. This is a space for the multifaceted girlies. Pull up a seat. The group chat is live. 💕 New episodes every Wednesday.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-09T10:19:48.162993+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865"},"episode":{"title":"Confidence, Self Obsession, and Breaking Out of Survival Mode Feat. Erica Ware The Confidence Coach","slug":"confidence-self-obsession-and-breaking-out-of-survival-mode-feat-erica-ware-the-confidence-coach","published_at":"2026-05-13T14:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865/confidence-self-obsession-and-breaking-out-of-survival-mode-feat-erica-ware-the-confidence-coach","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865","url":"https://rss.com/podcasts/suburbanblackgirlpodcast/2817154","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/9b817159-f320-422f-854d-dfa8cec62c5c.mp3","summary":"In this episode we sat down with Erica, The Confidence Coach (@theconfidencecoach), for a conversation that had us taking notes from start to finish. Erica is a mindset coach dedicated to helping women build self worth, set boundaries, and show up as their most confident selves. And she did not hold back. We got into: • The difference between being loved and being needed and why real love feels like exhale energy • Why calling yourself low maintenance is actually inviting low effort love • How to stop giving up your autonomy just because you like somebody • Why Black women feel so guilty for choosing themselves and where that guilt actually comes from • What survival mode actually looks like and how to recognize it in your own life • What healthy self obsession really means and why it doesn't have to be healthy • How to build and protect your routine in a relationship so you don't lose yourself • The difference between guilt and discomfort when you say no • Why confidence is curated daily and not something you wake up with Mantra Moment: Do it uncertain. Do it scared. Do it imperfect. There is no such thing as the right time. The right time is right now. — Erica (@theconfidencecoach) If this episode resonated drop a comment and let us know which part of Erica's message hit home for you. 📩 Email us: SuburbanBlackGirlPod@gmail.com 📱 Follow us on all platforms: @SuburbanBlackGirlPod ⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!","meta_description":"In this episode we sat down with Erica, The Confidence Coach (@theconfidencecoach), for a conversation that had us taking notes from start to finish. Eric…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":3201,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865/episodes/confidence-self-obsession-and-breaking-out-of-survival-mode-feat-erica-ware-the-confidence-coach/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865/confidence-self-obsession-and-breaking-out-of-survival-mode-feat-erica-ware-the-confidence-coach.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}