{"podcast":{"title":"Stuck Not Broken","slug":"stuck-not-broken-765818","podcast_index_feed_id":765818,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/stuck-not-broken/","website_url":"http://www.stucknotbroken.com","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/f78460d1-6aa6-42cb-999a-9e07bce431fa/podcast-covers-1.jpg","author":"Justin Sunseri","episode_count":356,"summary":"Stuck Not Broken is the first podcast built on clearly teaching the Polyvagal Theory and applying it to your trauma recovery process. Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist that makes the science of connection easily understood and accessible to anyone. He created the Polyvagal Trauma Relief System and is the author of Trauma & The Polyvagal Paradigm. (Justin Sunseri, LMFT99147)","last_synced_at":"2026-07-23T02:19:23.638185+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/stuck-not-broken-765818"},"episode":{"title":"What to do When Your Partner Cycles Between Shutdown and Fight","slug":"what-to-do-when-your-partner-cycles-between-shutdown-and-fight","published_at":"2025-12-09T12:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/stuck-not-broken-765818/what-to-do-when-your-partner-cycles-between-shutdown-and-fight","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/stuck-not-broken-765818","url":"http://www.stucknotbroken.com","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/704ec984-ba46-458c-bc34-bb55747416ec.mp3","summary":"When your spouse is dysregulated, shut down, or lashing out in anger—what's really happening? And more importantly, what can YOU do about it? In this episode, I break down: ✓ The biological difference between being technically safe and *feeling* safe ✓ Why your partner may not identify you as a safety cue (even if you're trying) ✓ The \"Polyvagal Ladder\"—how shutdown → anger → safety actually works ✓ Why fight activation coming out of shutdown is actually a GOOD sign ✓ The painful relationship cycle (and how to break it) ✓ 4 practical tips to shift relationship dynamics KEY TAKEAWAY: If you want your relationship to change, it falls on YOU to show up differently. You can't control your partner's nervous system, but you can regulate yours—and that's powerful. ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS: 0:00 - Introduction: Understanding Dysregulation in Relationships 0:32 - Listener's Question: Navigating Marital Challenges 2:01 - The Concept of Safety in Relationships 7:31 - The Role of Fight Activation and Safety 11:03 - Breaking the Cycle: Self-Regulation and Boundaries 20:12 - Practical Tips for Changing Relationship Dynamics 26:45 - Conclusion: The Journey to Self-Regulation 👉 Resources from this episode: \"Self-Regulate to Co-regulate\" episode - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-1ZflmdCZyE 🌸 Not sure which stuck state you're in? Recognize where you're at and join the free community here - https://www.stucknotbroken.com/stuck?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=stuck-page It helps you recognize your state. It never tells you what you are. No quiz, no verdict, no card. 🤩 Ready to go deeper? Explore resources at every price point here - https://www.stucknotbroken.com/how-i-can-help-you?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=how-i-can-help 🙂 Don't know the Poly…","meta_description":"When your spouse is dysregulated, shut down, or lashing out in anger—what's really happening? And more importantly, what can YOU do about it? In this epis…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1707,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/stuck-not-broken-765818/episodes/what-to-do-when-your-partner-cycles-between-shutdown-and-fight/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/stuck-not-broken-765818/what-to-do-when-your-partner-cycles-between-shutdown-and-fight.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}