{"podcast":{"title":"Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys","slug":"stop-chasing-unavailable-guys-7038847","podcast_index_feed_id":7038847,"rss_url":"https://api.riverside.fm/hosting/hAxSSQGn.rss/","website_url":"https://stopchasingunavailableguys.com","image_url":"https://hosting-media.riverside.com/media/imports/podcasts/fca2d947-a4ec-496b-976e-653f7873d367/cEEtMfp5zENmRKvnAGDcY8B7.jpg","author":"Truly Eleanor Intuitive Dating Coach","episode_count":64,"summary":"Welcome to the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys podcast. This is the show for single women over 40 who are done wasting time on emotionally unavailable guys and ready for real, healthy love. I’m Truly Eleanor, an intuitive dating coach with over 17 years of experience, and I help women stop chasing, stop doubting, and start choosing relationships that actually feel good. If you’ve ever thought: “Why do I keep attracting the same kind of guy?” “Why does healthy love feel unfamiliar?” “Why does dating feel harder the moment I start to care?” You’re in the right place. This podcast is where emotional healing meets real-world dating, so you can finally trust yourself, spot red flags early, and move toward love that’s calm, mutual, and deeply connected. And to get started, download my free guide The Top 5 Dating Apps for Women Over 40 (+ How to Spot Unavailable Guys Fast) at https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps Love is closer than you think. Let’s get started.","last_synced_at":null,"page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/stop-chasing-unavailable-guys-7038847"},"episode":{"title":"EP #49 Why Healthy Love Feels Unfamiliar: And Why That’s Not a Red Flag","slug":"ep-49-why-healthy-love-feels-unfamiliar-and-why-that-s-not-a-red-flag","published_at":"2026-02-02T20:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/stop-chasing-unavailable-guys-7038847/ep-49-why-healthy-love-feels-unfamiliar-and-why-that-s-not-a-red-flag","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/stop-chasing-unavailable-guys-7038847","url":"https://api.riverside.com/hosting-analytics/media/69983948f9d34be9156cebeb5ceb8f7064dbaa79fe9f839e65a1e9c937417517/eyJlcGlzb2RlSWQiOiIxZGY1YjBlZC04MWM3LTQ2ZjUtYjMxNi05Mjc2MTRhNGYyZjciLCJwb2RjYXN0SWQiOiJmY2EyZDk0Ny1hNGVjLTQ5NmItOTc2ZS02NTNmNzg3M2QzNjciLCJhY2NvdW50SWQiOiI2NmUxZTUwYTQ2NGVjODIzY2MzYWZhZTEiLCJwYXRoIjoibWVkaWEvY2xpcHMvNjk4MGQ4ZjkyYWQwNjMwMTFjYjllYWM5L3RydWx5LWVsZWFub3ItY29tcG9zZXItMjAyNi0yLTJfXzE4LTMtNTMubXAzIn0=.mp3","audio_url":"https://api.riverside.com/hosting-analytics/media/69983948f9d34be9156cebeb5ceb8f7064dbaa79fe9f839e65a1e9c937417517/eyJlcGlzb2RlSWQiOiIxZGY1YjBlZC04MWM3LTQ2ZjUtYjMxNi05Mjc2MTRhNGYyZjciLCJwb2RjYXN0SWQiOiJmY2EyZDk0Ny1hNGVjLTQ5NmItOTc2ZS02NTNmNzg3M2QzNjciLCJhY2NvdW50SWQiOiI2NmUxZTUwYTQ2NGVjODIzY2MzYWZhZTEiLCJwYXRoIjoibWVkaWEvY2xpcHMvNjk4MGQ4ZjkyYWQwNjMwMTFjYjllYWM5L3RydWx5LWVsZWFub3ItY29tcG9zZXItMjAyNi0yLTJfXzE4LTMtNTMubXAzIn0=.mp3","summary":"If you’re dating after 40 and keep feeling drawn to emotionally unavailable guys even though what you want is calm, secure love, this episode will help you understand why. In the first episode of Season 5, we’re talking about something many women experience but rarely question: why healthy love can feel flat or even uncomfortable when your nervous system has been shaped by intensity, uncertainty, or chasing. For a lot of women, what’s been labeled “chemistry” is actually adrenaline. And when connection feels calm, steady, or emotionally safe, it can be dismissed too quickly as boredom or a lack of attraction. In this episode, I break down how those patterns form, why they repeat, and what begins to shift when you stop chasing love and start choosing it. We also explore the quieter identity shift that happens when you stop dating from hope, fear, or longing and begin trusting yourself. This isn’t about forcing yourself to like someone you don’t like. It’s about understanding why your body responds the way it does, and how that response can change over time. What’s Inside the Episode Why that intense pull toward someone can feel so convincing and what it’s actually signaling What’s really happening when calm connection feels unfamiliar The subtle difference between chasing someone and choosing a relationship How adrenaline gets mistaken for chemistry The identity shift that quietly changes who you’re drawn to If your heart knows what it wants but your body hasn’t caught up yet, the Magnetic Love Bundle can help bridge that gap. Grab it here: https://learn.trulyeleanor.com/magneticlove 🎧 Listen to the full episode of Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys and begin the shift from chasing to choosing. 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