{"podcast":{"title":"ShameOver - The Drink Less Podcast","slug":"shameover-the-drink-less-podcast-6992327","podcast_index_feed_id":6992327,"rss_url":"https://api.riverside.fm/hosting/zJyRoNsP.rss","website_url":"https://shameover.me/","image_url":"https://hosting-media.riverside.com/media/podcasts/393b19d2-af00-456f-b0de-2636676adee4/logos/1cc3f2c3-26df-49c3-b3e5-39c78fe10de8.png","author":"Erica Mallery","episode_count":81,"summary":"ShameOver: The Drink Less Podcast helps women build a healthier relationship with alcohol—without quitting completely or living in shame. Hosted by Erica Mallery, alcohol mindset coach and former daily wine drinker (and weekend binge drinker), this podcast explores mindful drinking, harm reduction, nervous system regulation, and emotional wellness for women who want to drink less, feel better, and laugh more! If you’re tired of all-or-nothing sobriety messaging, sick of the shame spiral around drinking, or curious about Dry January alternatives, this podcast offers a compassionate, empowering approach to change. Each episode blends real talk, science-backed insights, and practical tools to help you understand why you drink, how to reduce overdrinking, and how to reconnect with yourself—without labels, rock bottoms, or giving up your social life. Topics include mindful drinking, moderation, rebound drinking, emotional regulation, identity, self-trust, and breaking free from the wine-o’clock detox-to-retox cycle. 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In Part 1 of this conversation, I sit down with depth psychotherapist and somatic practitioner Elani Engelken to talk about what somatic healing actually is, why so many women use alcohol as a shut-off valve, and how motherhood, overwhelm, and nervous system dysregulation all play a much bigger role than most people realize. This episode goes way beyond “just drink less.” We get into the deeper why behind drinking, especially for women and moms who are carrying a lot, giving a lot, and often don’t have enough support themselves. If you’ve ever felt like that evening drink is the first time all day you get to exhale… this conversation is going to hit. In this episode, we talk about: what somatic work actually means and why it’s become such a buzzword the difference between top-down healing and body-based healing why so many women use alcohol to “shut off” how alcohol can become a stand-in for support, soothing, and regulation the role of motherhood, caregiving, and overwhelm in drinking habits why co-regulation matters so much more than we’ve been taught how Western culture disconnects us from our bodies why community can be one of the most healing parts of the journey Favorite takeaway: Alcohol often isn’t just about the alcohol. For so many women, it has become the support system where support is lacking everywhere else. About Elani: Elani Engelken is a depth psychotherapist and somatic healer whose work sits at the intersection of nervous system science, depth psychology, and embodied healing. 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