{"podcast":{"title":"Sex Advice for Seniors Podcast","slug":"sex-advice-for-seniors-podcast-5576148","podcast_index_feed_id":5576148,"rss_url":"https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/939975.rss","website_url":"https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/podcast","image_url":"https://substackcdn.com/feed/podcast/939975/07ca023b9f25d4255497504baf32d75e.jpg","author":"Suzanne Noble","episode_count":206,"summary":"Honest, stigma-free sex advice for people who refuse to let age define their desires. New subscribers receive a FREE PDF of my '10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex After 50'","last_synced_at":"2026-07-24T04:19:30.765533+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/sex-advice-for-seniors-podcast-5576148"},"episode":{"title":"Why Dating Apps Fail Older LGBTQ Singles—and What a Matchmaker Does Instead","slug":"why-dating-apps-fail-older-lgbtq-singles-and-what-a-matchmaker-does-instead","published_at":"2026-02-11T14:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/sex-advice-for-seniors-podcast-5576148/why-dating-apps-fail-older-lgbtq-singles-and-what-a-matchmaker-does-instead","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/sex-advice-for-seniors-podcast-5576148","url":"https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/hiring-a-matchmaker-as-a-gay-person","audio_url":"https://pscrb.fm/rss/p/prfx.byspotify.com/e/api.substack.com/feed/podcast/185257234/d04698e8aee0f55061858964448c4c18.mp3","summary":"Ever wondered what it’s like to hire a matchmaker? This week I spoke with Tammy Shaklee, a heterosexual woman who specialises in matching LGBTQ+ clients over 50. She’s spent 14 years helping gay and lesbian singles find serious relationships. It goes without saying, I was curious to hear how she got her start. Turns out, after her divorce, Tammy hired a matchmaker and met her husband. Years later, a gay friend said he wished there was a matchmaking service for gay men who valued privacy. Tammy assumed one existed. She researched for 24 hours, pretending to be a 40-year-old gay physician looking for a dignified way to meet professionals online. She found nothing dignified. That’s when she realised matchmakers weren’t serving the LGBTQ community at all. Being entrepreneurial, she built a service exclusively for gay and lesbian singles seeking serious relationships called H4M . The biggest problem she encountered? Older gay men, it is assumed, want younger partners. Younger men want financial support. If you’re seeking someone your own age with similar stability, you’re stuck. App for gay men are more often than not hookup platforms. They don’t work for finding real compatibility. That’s where matchmakers come in - introducing you to people you’d never meet on your own. My favourite story of Tammy’s? A 66-year-old widow called Tammy, bursting with enthusiasm. She’d just spoken with her parents in their late 90s, still independent, still in love, still caring for each other. “I realised I have a 30-year relationship in front of me. We need to get started.” Tammy matched her twice. She met someone and never needed another introduction. Tammy’s filter for clients: “Would I have you at my holiday table? Would I set you up with my siblings?” She turns people away if she’s not…","meta_description":"Ever wondered what it’s like to hire a matchmaker? This week I spoke with Tammy Shaklee, a heterosexual woman who specialises in matching LGBTQ+ clients o…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2203,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/sex-advice-for-seniors-podcast-5576148/episodes/why-dating-apps-fail-older-lgbtq-singles-and-what-a-matchmaker-does-instead/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/sex-advice-for-seniors-podcast-5576148/why-dating-apps-fail-older-lgbtq-singles-and-what-a-matchmaker-does-instead.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}