{"podcast":{"title":"Rewired Sober","slug":"rewired-sober-7110186","podcast_index_feed_id":7110186,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/rewiredsober/","website_url":"https://rewiredsober.captivate.fm","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/d80d3dd9-542a-4703-8bb3-d1a805b0d894/Rewired-Sober-3.jpg","author":"Kate Vitela","episode_count":80,"summary":"Rewired Sober is a sobriety and recovery podcast for women who are tired of surface-level self-help and ready for real change. Hosted by psychiatric nurse, addiction specialist, and recovery coach Kate Vitela, RN, this podcast explores the neuroscience of addiction, emotional sobriety, mindset change, and the messy, honest reality of rebuilding your life after quitting drinking. This is not a preachy recovery podcast full of toxic positivity or shame. It’s real conversations about: women and alcohol gray area drinking anxiety and emotional regulation perfectionism and people pleasing cravings and habit loops neuroplasticity and brain rewiring identity in midlife anger, grief, and healing creativity, fashion, and self-expression in recovery relationships, boundaries, and self-trust learning how to feel your feelings without numbing them Kate combines clinical insight, lived experience, humor, and a feminist lens to help women understand why they drink, not just how to stop. Whether you’re sober curious, newly alcohol-free, or years into recovery and wondering “now what?” — this podcast is designed to help you build a life that actually feels good to live. If you’re looking for a so…","last_synced_at":"2026-06-09T18:18:31.848618+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/rewired-sober-7110186"},"episode":{"title":"EP: 77 It's Unfair I Have to Be Sober  #FML.","slug":"ep-77-it-s-unfair-i-have-to-be-sober-fml","published_at":"2026-06-09T08:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/rewired-sober-7110186/ep-77-it-s-unfair-i-have-to-be-sober-fml","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/rewired-sober-7110186","url":"https://rewiredsober.captivate.fm","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/17119488-93e1-4482-a5cb-c87a59e5a5f5.mp3","summary":"In this episode of Rewired Sober, we’re talking about a thought almost every woman in recovery has had at some point: “It’s unfair I have to live sober.” And honestly? I get it. It can feel deeply frustrating to watch other people drink while you’re trying to rebuild your nervous system, regulate your emotions, and figure out who you even are without alcohol. Nobody wants to be the person ordering club soda while everyone else is posting vodka sodas like they’re in a 2001 episode of Sex and the City . But this episode goes deeper than just “poor me” thinking. We’re talking about the psychology of resentment in sobriety, the Buddhist philosophy that suffering often comes more from our mindset and resistance than the actual circumstance itself, and how comparison quietly keeps women emotionally stuck. Because yes: sobriety can feel unfair. (Don't punch me) But so can: getting cancer being gluten or dairy intolerant struggling with anxiety having trauma dealing with chronic illness being genetically predisposed to addiction Human beings constantly have to adapt to reality. That doesn’t make you weak. It makes you human. In this episode, Kate talks openly about: why social media creates distorted views of “normal drinking” the hidden consequences people don’t post online how resentment can sabotage recovery the difference between pain and suffering why acceptance is not the same as liking something how mindset shifts help rewire the brain in sobriety the neuroscience of comparison and emotional suffering how women can stop seeing sobriety as punishment and start seeing it as information This conversation also explores the idea that nobody escapes consequences forever — we just don’t always see them. The woman posting wine night selfies may also be struggling with anxiety,…","meta_description":"In this episode of Rewired Sober, we’re talking about a thought almost every woman in recovery has had at some point: “It’s unfair I have to live sober.”…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2131,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/rewired-sober-7110186/episodes/ep-77-it-s-unfair-i-have-to-be-sober-fml/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/rewired-sober-7110186/ep-77-it-s-unfair-i-have-to-be-sober-fml.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}