{"podcast":{"title":"Religion on the Mind","slug":"religion-on-the-mind-698478","podcast_index_feed_id":698478,"rss_url":"https://feeds.megaphone.fm/ALHT9909178333","website_url":"https://www.religiononthemind.com/","image_url":"https://megaphone.imgix.net/podcasts/6423ff80-74fd-11ed-8beb-cbfae0fad605/image/9e01ca0389cd3c05197dfd2d606afe40.jpg?ixlib=rails-4.3.1&max-w=3000&max-h=3000&fit=crop&auto=format,compress","author":"Religion on the Mind","episode_count":428,"summary":"Interviews with experts, writers, psychologists and more on the intersection between psychology, religion and spirituality… with a little bit of cussing. dan@religiononthemind.com","last_synced_at":"2026-06-08T22:21:06.458923+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/religion-on-the-mind-698478"},"episode":{"title":"How to Accept What You Cannot Change: Anxious Times, Part 3 (#389)","slug":"how-to-accept-what-you-cannot-change-anxious-times-part-3-389","published_at":"2026-03-26T10:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/religion-on-the-mind-698478/how-to-accept-what-you-cannot-change-anxious-times-part-3-389","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/religion-on-the-mind-698478","url":"https://traffic.megaphone.fm/TOREC7687336455.mp3?updated=1774473920","audio_url":"https://traffic.megaphone.fm/TOREC7687336455.mp3?updated=1774473920","summary":"I'm joined by my co-host Kristen Tideman for the third installment of the Anxious Times series. We dig into Emmy van Dersen's concept of \"the necessary\" — the hard limits baked into existence that we can't change, only accept — and explore how resisting these limits is one of the biggest drivers of unhealthy anxiety, whether you're navigating religious deconstruction, a new diagnosis, or just being alive in a chaotic world. In the Patron-only second half, Kristen shares the raw, emotional story of her MS diagnosis as a lived case study in running headfirst into hard limits, and we explore what it looks like to resist or deny the necessary — from anti-aging culture to political utopianism to religious change. Highlights: Defining \"the necessary\" (hard limits) Mortality, uncertainty, embodiment as givens Kristen's MS diagnosis and processing Religious change and false certainty Acceptance ≠ approval or minimizing Anxious Times Episode Part 1⁠ ⁠Anxious Times Episode Part 2 ___________________________________________ Follow Dan on IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.instagram.com/dancoke/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Or Twitter: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠twitter.com/DanKoch⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Faith deconstruction resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.soyouredeconstructing.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join the Patreon for exclusive episodes (and more) every month: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon.com/dankoch⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email about the \"sliding scale\" for the Patreon: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠youhavepermissionpodcast@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YHP Patron-only FB group: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠tinyurl.com/ycvbbf98⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.dankochwords.com/yhp.html⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join Dan's email list: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.dankochwords.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Artwork by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nickryanluevano.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices","meta_description":"I'm joined by my co-host Kristen Tideman for the third installment of the Anxious Times series. We dig into Emmy van Dersen's concept of \"the necessary\" —…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1926,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/religion-on-the-mind-698478/episodes/how-to-accept-what-you-cannot-change-anxious-times-part-3-389/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/religion-on-the-mind-698478/how-to-accept-what-you-cannot-change-anxious-times-part-3-389.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}