{"podcast":{"title":"Relationships Made Easy","slug":"relationships-made-easy-1024411","podcast_index_feed_id":1024411,"rss_url":"https://feeds.redcircle.com/bd33039b-b884-4970-bd89-6881f41a5d29","website_url":"https://redcircle.com/shows/relationships-made-easy3126","image_url":"https://media.redcircle.com/images/2026/4/20/17/6f48509d-422d-4312-a081-99aa4ba8fbe0_195046423-d2603bd6-db7f-4989-8e1e-80fa7e3d3c7c.jpg","author":"Dr. Abby Medcalf","episode_count":398,"summary":"The research says the key to a happy life is happy relationships. But how exactly do you make your relationships better? That’s what this show is all about. I’m Dr. Abby Medcalf, psychologist, best-selling author, TEDx speaker, and (according to my kids) the bossy Jewish mom you didn’t know you needed. With decades of experience and millions of listeners in over 180 countries, I give you the no-fluff, research-backed strategies to make all your relationships better: with your partner, your family, your friends, and (most importantly) yourself. Every week on the Relationships Made Easy podcast, I mix straight talk, humor, and science to help you communicate effectively, set healthy boundaries, and stop second-guessing yourself. Because great relationships aren’t built in a day. Great relationships are built daily. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.","last_synced_at":"2026-06-23T12:19:04.825234+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/relationships-made-easy-1024411"},"episode":{"title":"387. Why You Keep Choosing the Wrong Partner","slug":"387-why-you-keep-choosing-the-wrong-partner","published_at":"2026-06-15T23:00:19+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/relationships-made-easy-1024411/387-why-you-keep-choosing-the-wrong-partner","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/relationships-made-easy-1024411","url":"https://abbymedcalf.com/why-you-keep-choosing-the-wrong-partner","audio_url":"https://audio4.redcircle.com/episodes/dedf5f77-fffa-4278-9381-4d476f2d9deb/stream.mp3","summary":"If you've ever said, \"My picker is broken,\" I want you to stop right there. Your picker isn't broken. It's working exactly the way it was trained to work. The problem is what it was trained on, and that's something you can actually change. In this episode, I'm going to walk you through the three psychological mechanisms that explain why you keep ending up in the same painful patterns, why that person who seemed so amazing kept disappointing you, and what you can concretely do to choose differently starting today. You're going to get the reframe, and then, as always, you're going to get the tools. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/why-you-keep-choosing-the-wrong-partner Download The Pattern Snapshot, a quick self-assessment to name what's actually driving your relationship pattern: https://abbymedcalf.com/pattern-snapshot Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack . You'll get... ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby _________ Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week! https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/ 👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries 👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook 👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book ____________________________ Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https:/…","meta_description":"If you've ever said, \"My picker is broken,\" I want you to stop right there. Your picker isn't broken. It's working exactly the way it was trained to work.…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2377,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/relationships-made-easy-1024411/episodes/387-why-you-keep-choosing-the-wrong-partner/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/relationships-made-easy-1024411/387-why-you-keep-choosing-the-wrong-partner.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}