{"podcast":{"title":"Relationships Made Easy","slug":"relationships-made-easy-1024411","podcast_index_feed_id":1024411,"rss_url":"https://feeds.redcircle.com/bd33039b-b884-4970-bd89-6881f41a5d29","website_url":"https://redcircle.com/shows/relationships-made-easy3126","image_url":"https://media.redcircle.com/images/2026/4/20/17/6f48509d-422d-4312-a081-99aa4ba8fbe0_195046423-d2603bd6-db7f-4989-8e1e-80fa7e3d3c7c.jpg","author":"Dr. Abby Medcalf","episode_count":398,"summary":"The research says the key to a happy life is happy relationships. But how exactly do you make your relationships better? That’s what this show is all about. I’m Dr. Abby Medcalf, psychologist, best-selling author, TEDx speaker, and (according to my kids) the bossy Jewish mom you didn’t know you needed. With decades of experience and millions of listeners in over 180 countries, I give you the no-fluff, research-backed strategies to make all your relationships better: with your partner, your family, your friends, and (most importantly) yourself. Every week on the Relationships Made Easy podcast, I mix straight talk, humor, and science to help you communicate effectively, set healthy boundaries, and stop second-guessing yourself. Because great relationships aren’t built in a day. Great relationships are built daily. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.","last_synced_at":"2026-06-23T12:19:04.825234+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/relationships-made-easy-1024411"},"episode":{"title":"382. Why You Can’t Stop Comparing Yourself to Others","slug":"382-why-you-can-t-stop-comparing-yourself-to-others","published_at":"2026-05-11T23:00:19+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/relationships-made-easy-1024411/382-why-you-can-t-stop-comparing-yourself-to-others","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/relationships-made-easy-1024411","url":"https://abbymedcalf.com/why-you-cant-stop-comparing-yourself-to-others","audio_url":"https://audio4.redcircle.com/episodes/8fe36b11-ce34-43c8-a9f4-17ac1afda4e8/stream.mp3","summary":"You’ve tried unfollowing people, making gratitude lists, staying in your own lane. And you still compare yourself to others. So what gives? You can’t stop comparing because you were never supposed to, and comparison isn’t a bad habit you can decide to quit. It’s a cognitive function, and you can’t opt out of cognitive functions. Every piece of advice that tells you to just stop is working against your own brain, which is exactly why it never sticks. Today you’ll learn why comparison is hardwired into you, why the standard advice fails, why some people get pulled into it more painfully than others, and the specific shifts that actually make a difference. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/why-you-cant-stop-comparing-yourself-to-others Download the What Is This Comparison Really Telling You? Worksheet that walks you through identifying your own comparison triggers, what they’re actually pointing at, and how to redirect when the spiral starts: https://abbymedcalf.com/what-is-this-comparison Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack . You'll get... ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby _________ Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week! https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/ 👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries 👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook 👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your P…","meta_description":"You’ve tried unfollowing people, making gratitude lists, staying in your own lane. And you still compare yourself to others. So what gives? You can’t stop…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2149,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/relationships-made-easy-1024411/episodes/382-why-you-can-t-stop-comparing-yourself-to-others/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/relationships-made-easy-1024411/382-why-you-can-t-stop-comparing-yourself-to-others.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}