{"podcast":{"title":"Relationship Advice","slug":"relationship-advice-524081","podcast_index_feed_id":524081,"rss_url":"https://feeds.megaphone.fm/EDGY4477967628","website_url":"https://relationshippod.com","image_url":"https://megaphone.imgix.net/podcasts/77c67cee-306e-11ed-922d-27fb7bb65843/image/96a5b3ef7c5f97ede7e29b981ec8922a.png?ixlib=rails-4.3.1&max-w=3000&max-h=3000&fit=crop&auto=format,compress","author":"Colter Bloxom","episode_count":595,"summary":"Relationship Advice helps listeners uncover the stuck spots in their relationships by taking expert advice from three licensed professional counselors and boiling it down into digestible tips and tools. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren help people to see that the first step to connecting with somebody else is by connecting with you. They focus their show on understanding and navigating the cycles that couples face, how to practice individuation, and staying in an emotionally regulated state. Just them each week as they come with a jam packed agenda to help you thrive in your relationships. Looking for old episode from \"Relatable\"? Click here.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-27T16:17:54.398224+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/relationship-advice-524081"},"episode":{"title":"Stop Saying \"Calm Down\"—Do This Instead","slug":"stop-saying-calm-down-do-this-instead","published_at":"2026-04-04T09:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/relationship-advice-524081/stop-saying-calm-down-do-this-instead","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/relationship-advice-524081","url":"https://www.podtrac.com/pts/redirect.mp3/pdst.fm/e/mgln.ai/e/211/traffic.megaphone.fm/IDP6025108689.mp3?updated=1775277069","audio_url":"https://www.podtrac.com/pts/redirect.mp3/pdst.fm/e/mgln.ai/e/211/traffic.megaphone.fm/IDP6025108689.mp3?updated=1775277069","summary":"Telling someone to “calm down” usually does the opposite—it makes people feel dismissed, misunderstood, and even more activated. In this episode, the hosts explore why that phrase backfires in moments of anger, anxiety, disappointment, or excitement, and why it often comes from the other person feeling overwhelmed too. They unpack a better approach: co-regulation through validation, steady presence, gentler tone, and asking what support actually helps. Main Talking Points: • Validation first• Tone matters• Co-regulate together• Name the feeling• Ask what helps Give Me Discounts! ⁠⁠AG1 - ⁠⁠AG1 has become my go to every morning. ⁠⁠Beducate⁠⁠ - Use code relationship69 for 65% off the annual pass. Check out Relationship Academy! ⁠ ⁠Cozy Earth⁠⁠ - Black Friday has come early! Right now, you can stack my code “IDO” on top of their sitewide sale — giving you up to 40% off in savings. These deals won’t last, so start your holiday shopping today! ⁠⁠Simple Practice⁠⁠ - If you're in mental health and not using simple practice then what are you doing??? ⁠⁠Spark My Relationship Course:⁠⁠ Get $100 off our online course. Visit⁠⁠ SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock⁠⁠ for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! ⁠⁠Skylight⁠⁠⁠ - Use code “IDO” for $30 off your 15 inch calendar. Quince - Get Free Shipping and 365-day Returns using our link! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a⁠ review in iTunes⁠? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices","meta_description":"Telling someone to “calm down” usually does the opposite—it makes people feel dismissed, misunderstood, and even more activated. In this episode, the host…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":3096,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/relationship-advice-524081/episodes/stop-saying-calm-down-do-this-instead/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/relationship-advice-524081/stop-saying-calm-down-do-this-instead.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}