{"podcast":{"title":"Queers with Accents","slug":"queers-with-accents-7747041","podcast_index_feed_id":7747041,"rss_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/113ab0284/podcast/rss","website_url":"https://qesl.blogspot.com/p/blog-page_20.html","image_url":"https://d3t3ozftmdmh3i.cloudfront.net/staging/podcast_uploaded_nologo/46149417/46149417-1781285828871-79c7dc171d6bc.jpg","author":"Queer ESL with Masaki Seto","episode_count":15,"summary":"Japanese queer writer and ESL educator Masaki Seto is joined by his fellows ESL speakers (like his students) to discuss social justice and other topics.","last_synced_at":"2026-06-24T10:17:01.892727+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/queers-with-accents-7747041"},"episode":{"title":"#5 Musical chairs of affection vs. the dance floor","slug":"5-musical-chairs-of-affection-vs-the-dance-floor","published_at":"2026-04-06T04:48:53+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/queers-with-accents-7747041/5-musical-chairs-of-affection-vs-the-dance-floor","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/queers-with-accents-7747041","url":"https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/queerswithaccents/episodes/5-Musical-chairs-of-affection-vs--the-dance-floor-e3kn3kh","audio_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/113ab0284/podcast/play/121392209/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-5-12%2F426026579-44100-2-ae9d089308081.mp3","summary":"Kinoko is one of my ESL students and the author of I Have Two Partners: Living the Polyamorous Life , a ground-breaking book in Japanese about polyamory, as well as the organizer of Poly Lounge , a series of events for polyamorous and questioning people and allies. We publish archived videos of our lessons as a podcast. Today, our conversation covered the following topics: * The speaker’s excitement and anxiety about reuniting with a long-term partner after two years of forced platonic distance due to his monogamous relationship with someone else. * The “musical chairs” dynamic of affection, where a monogamous person can claim the only available “chair” (partner status), shutting others out of intimacy. * Societal assumptions that polyamorous people should be “fine” losing one relationship because they have others, and that monogamous feelings automatically take priority. * The speaker’s rejection of rigid labels (friend, partner, f**k buddy), seeing every person as unique and irreplaceable. * The ideal of a “dance floor” where there are no chairs—or many chairs—allowing affection to flow without competition or exclusivity. Tip: Turn on the automatic transcript feature if you’d like to read along. Connect with Kinoko-san * Kinoko-san’s X: https://x.com/kinoko1027 * Kinoko-san’s blog: https://ameblo.jp/kinoko1027ameba/ * Her book: https://amzn.asia/d/0gusbsvA * Her interview: https://news.yahoo.co.jp/articles/ad17531bef6f9307a429f45f450a9fb2817f8196","meta_description":"Kinoko is one of my ESL students and the author of I Have Two Partners: Living the Polyamorous Life , a ground-breaking book in Japanese about polyamory,…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1980,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/queers-with-accents-7747041/episodes/5-musical-chairs-of-affection-vs-the-dance-floor/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/queers-with-accents-7747041/5-musical-chairs-of-affection-vs-the-dance-floor.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}