{"podcast":{"title":"On Your Terms®","slug":"on-your-terms-4083141","podcast_index_feed_id":4083141,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/onyourterms/","website_url":"https://samvanderwielen.com","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/dcf17a6c-be5f-433f-9d97-06a949624bbe/Zw_iksMdISlQbnieoMtiZJjQ.jpg","author":"Sam Vander Wielen","episode_count":307,"summary":"A podcast for online business owners who refuse to choose between revenue and a real life. Most business advice tells you to hustle harder, post more, and \"always be on.\" I'm here to tell you that's BS—and I have the multi-seven-figure business to prove it. I'm Sam Vander Wielen, and I've built a thriving online business while protecting my mornings, unplugging at night, and actually living the life I built my business for. Every week, I share the marketing strategies, legal foundations, and lifestyle boundaries that keep my business profitable without stealing my peace. Whether you're building your first six figures or scaling past seven, this show will help you grow your revenue without sacrificing your presence, your sleep, or your sanity. Because success isn't just about how much you make—it's about having the freedom to actually enjoy your life. New to my world? I’m a lawyer-turned-entrepreneur who built an 7-figure digital product business helping thousands of founders legally protect and grow their online businesses. These days, I’m here to share not just the legal clarity but the lessons, stories, and strategies that make business and life more fulfilling. I'm the author o…","last_synced_at":"2026-07-27T18:21:15.191906+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/on-your-terms-4083141"},"episode":{"title":"294. Why 'Must Be Nice' Is the Most Dangerous Thing You Can Say to Yourself","slug":"294-why-must-be-nice-is-the-most-dangerous-thing-you-can-say-to-yourself","published_at":"2026-06-22T09:30:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/on-your-terms-4083141/294-why-must-be-nice-is-the-most-dangerous-thing-you-can-say-to-yourself","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/on-your-terms-4083141","url":"https://samvanderwielen.com","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/bc1129ed-94e2-4efb-82b5-25c08075bed7.mp3","summary":"“Must be nice.” It sounds harmless. Like a throwaway comment, a passing thought, something you mutter when you see someone doing something you wish you could do. But I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, and I think that little phrase is one of the most dangerous things you can say to yourself as a business owner. Because here’s what it’s actually doing: it’s letting you off the hook. It’s a quiet way of deciding something doesn’t apply to you before you’ve even given yourself the chance to find out if it could. And I’ve been getting a lot of these comments lately, in my DMs, in the comments, in the tone behind the questions I get, and I finally needed to say something about it. Not to call anyone out. I’ve thought it too. But because I think the story underneath “must be nice” is costing you more than you realize, and I don’t think it’s actually true. In this episode, I’m getting honest about what people don’t see: why the nos and the boundaries came before the revenue, what really shifted the way I run my business (hint: it wasn’t hitting a certain income number), and what it looks like to start building a business on your own terms right now, wherever you are. In this episode, you'll hear… Why “must be nice” is actually one of the most dangerous things you can say to yourself as a business owner The truth about what actually came first in my business: the permission, the nos, and the boundaries, before the money and the team How grief completely changed my relationship to what felt urgent in my business and what that meant for everything that came after Why saying yes to everything is not the path to making more money (and what to do instead) What the “arrival fallacy” has to do with building a business and why hitting a revenue milestone won’t be the thing th…","meta_description":"“Must be nice.” It sounds harmless. Like a throwaway comment, a passing thought, something you mutter when you see someone doing something you wish you co…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1565,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/on-your-terms-4083141/episodes/294-why-must-be-nice-is-the-most-dangerous-thing-you-can-say-to-yourself/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/on-your-terms-4083141/294-why-must-be-nice-is-the-most-dangerous-thing-you-can-say-to-yourself.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}