{"podcast":{"title":"Office Hours with Arthur Brooks","slug":"office-hours-with-arthur-brooks-7443626","podcast_index_feed_id":7443626,"rss_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/107fc00dc/podcast/rss","website_url":"https://arthurbrooks.com/","image_url":"https://d3t3ozftmdmh3i.cloudfront.net/staging/podcast_uploaded_nologo/44189231/44189231-1754764801223-80431bcc2dada.jpg","author":"Arthur Brooks","episode_count":52,"summary":"Hi Friends, I’m Arthur Brooks, a social scientist, professor at the Harvard Kennedy School and Harvard Business School, columnist at The Free Press. I write, speak, and teach about the science of human happiness, blending neuroscience, behavioral science, philosophy, and religion for insights on how to live better and be happier. Each week on Office Hours, you’ll get a glimpse into the cutting edge research on happiness, and explore how you can use it to improve your life—and share what you learn with those you love. Join me in the movement to build a happier world–starting with you.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-27T22:17:04.549075+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/office-hours-with-arthur-brooks-7443626"},"episode":{"title":"How to Stop Caring What Others Think","slug":"how-to-stop-caring-what-others-think","published_at":"2026-01-12T12:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/office-hours-with-arthur-brooks-7443626/how-to-stop-caring-what-others-think","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/office-hours-with-arthur-brooks-7443626","url":"https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/arthurbrooks/episodes/How-to-Stop-Caring-What-Others-Think-e3d9taq","audio_url":"https://traffic.megaphone.fm/APO9078262382.mp3","summary":"Why do we care so much about what other people think of us? In this episode of Office Hours , I explain the science behind why concern about others’ opinions is so powerful in the first place. I talk about the two reasons we are wired to care what people think, how our brains treat social judgment as a real threat, and why this fear can quietly shape our choices, our behavior, and even our sense of self. Once we understand what is happening in our minds and bodies, we can start to loosen its grip. I share three ways to break out of this pattern and begin caring less about other people’s opinions, not by ignoring them entirely, but by relating to them more wisely. My hope is that these ideas help you move with more freedom, show up more authentically, and live with less unnecessary fear of being judged. — Where to find Arthur Brooks: • Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://arthurbrooks.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ • Newsletter: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.arthurbrooks.com/newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ • X: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://x.com/arthurbrooks⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ • Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/arthurcbrooks/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ • Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/ArthurBrooks/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ • YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGuyFRjJQFGCKzfHTBvWM6A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ • LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/arthur-c-brooks/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ • Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠officehours@arthurbrooks.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Timestamps: (00:00) Intro (03:20) The two reasons you care what others think about you (13:53) BIS and BAS: why fear of judgment can keep you stuck (19:00) The role of shame and when it turns destructive (23:46) Way #1: No one cares (27:05) Way #2: Rebel against your shame (30:42) Way #3: Don’t judge, and…","meta_description":"Why do we care so much about what other people think of us? In this episode of Office Hours , I explain the science behind why concern about others’ opini…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2586,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/office-hours-with-arthur-brooks-7443626/episodes/how-to-stop-caring-what-others-think/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/office-hours-with-arthur-brooks-7443626/how-to-stop-caring-what-others-think.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}