{"podcast":{"title":"Neurodiversity Podcast","slug":"neurodiversity-podcast-485169","podcast_index_feed_id":485169,"rss_url":"https://mindmatters.libsyn.com/rss","website_url":"https://www.neurodiversitypodcast.com","image_url":"https://static.libsyn.com/p/assets/e/b/2/0/eb208a34cc84d035e5bbc093207a2619/2022_Neurodiversity_Podcast_Logo_Master_rev_11-04.jpg","author":"Dave Morris","episode_count":322,"summary":"The Neurodiversity Podcast talks with leaders in the fields of psychology, education, and beyond, about positively impacting neurodivergent people. Our goal is to reframe differences that were once considered disabilities or disorders, promote awareness of this unique population, and improve the lives of neurodivergent and high-ability people.","last_synced_at":"2026-06-25T10:20:05.582930+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/neurodiversity-podcast-485169"},"episode":{"title":"Parenting the Child You Have (Not the One You Expected)","slug":"parenting-the-child-you-have-not-the-one-you-expected","published_at":"2026-01-16T21:18:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/neurodiversity-podcast-485169/parenting-the-child-you-have-not-the-one-you-expected","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/neurodiversity-podcast-485169","url":"https://neurodiversitypodcast.com/home/2026/1/16/episode-301-parenting-the-child-you-have-not-the-one-you-expected","audio_url":"https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/mindmatters/20260116_Neurodiversity_Podcast_Episode_301.mp3?dest-id=643256","summary":"\"Parent the child you have,\" is a common piece of advice in the neurodiversity community, but what does it actually look like in practice when stress is high and patience is low? Why do traditional consequences often fail to build the skills a child actually needs? And how can parents distinguish between enabling a child and truly supporting them? Today, Emily Kircher-Morris talks with Cindy Goldrich, founder of PTS Coaching, and author of Eight Keys to Parenting Kids and Teens with ADHD , about the developmental reality of executive dysfunction and why \"calm is power\" when it comes to parenting complex kids. TAKEAWAYS \"Parenting the child you have\" requires letting go of the expectations of who you thought they would be and getting curious about who they actually are. Executive function is a developmental process, and the human brain often isn't fully mature until age 25 to 30. Intelligence and executive function are separate traits; a high IQ does not guarantee a child will have the ability to organize or self-regulate. Enabling is defined as doing something for a child without a plan to help them eventually do it for themselves. Stress physically restricts access to the prefrontal cortex, making executive function skills harder to access in high-pressure moments. ADHD is fundamentally a delay in the development of executive function skills, sometimes by as much as 30%. Oppositional behavior (often labeled ODD) is frequently a result of emotional dysregulation rather than a calculated choice to be difficult. A parent's ability to remain calm is their greatest power in helping a dysregulated child. Here's the link to register for the continuing education training on January 23, \"Adapting Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy for Autistic and ADHD Pediatric Clients.\" Cindy Gold…","meta_description":"\"Parent the child you have,\" is a common piece of advice in the neurodiversity community, but what does it actually look like in practice when stress is h…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2365,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/neurodiversity-podcast-485169/episodes/parenting-the-child-you-have-not-the-one-you-expected/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/neurodiversity-podcast-485169/parenting-the-child-you-have-not-the-one-you-expected.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}