{"podcast":{"title":"Master Your Marriage","slug":"master-your-marriage-6011000","podcast_index_feed_id":6011000,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/sharla-and-robert-snow/","website_url":"https://masteryourmarriage.us","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/316d4016-1b61-4921-acdc-543558797a65/MYM-Podcast-Cover-2025.jpg","author":"Sharla and Robert Snow","episode_count":168,"summary":"The average couple waits 6 years to get help in their marriage. That's 6 years of pain, hurt, frustration and lost opportunity. This podcast is designed to help you NOT become a part of that statistic. Hosted by Dr. Robert and Sharla Snow — themselves married for 31 years — The Master Your Marriage show is here with straight-talking guidance on how to fill your marriage with fun, friendship and love, without it ever feeling like \"hard work.\" No matter how long you've been struggling with your marriage, or how long it's been since you've felt that \"spark,\" we promise you, there is hope! Your MASTERFUL marriage starts here.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-08T16:17:20.171576+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/master-your-marriage-6011000"},"episode":{"title":"How Adapting to Trauma Wires Us for Shame","slug":"how-adapting-to-trauma-wires-us-for-shame","published_at":"2026-07-08T07:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/master-your-marriage-6011000/how-adapting-to-trauma-wires-us-for-shame","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/master-your-marriage-6011000","url":"https://sharla-and-robert-snow.captivate.fm/episode/how-adapting-to-trauma-wires-us-for-shame","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/69a828d8-0fa0-4d55-b454-5c0efafb7dea.mp3","summary":"This is part two of our shame series. Be sure to listen to last week's episode for an introduction into shame and how it relates to self-esteem. In this episode, we go deeper into the real reason shame and grandiosity show up in our relationships. We explore how early childhood experiences shape a part of our psyche called the Adaptive Child — the part that learned to survive through fight, flight, or fix strategies. You’ll learn why these once-brilliant survival patterns often become the very thing that keeps us stuck in shame cycles as adults. We break down the three parts of the psyche, how trauma gets stored in the Adaptive Child, and what it actually takes to re-parent that younger part of ourselves with compassion and firmness. If you’ve ever wondered why your reactions feel so automatic and intense in relationships, or why “just loving yourself” hasn’t worked, this episode will give you the missing piece. In this episode, you’ll discover: The three parts of the psyche and why most of us spend our adult lives in the Adaptive Child How fight, flight, or fix becomes your default survival strategy Why the Adaptive Child carries and replays shame and grandiosity How childhood trauma (big or small) wires these patterns into your nervous system The powerful truth that shame and grandiosity are actually the same emotion pointed in two different directions How to begin re-parenting your Adaptive Child so it no longer runs your relationships Connect With Us: Website: MasterYourMarriage.us Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MasterYourMarriage/","meta_description":"This is part two of our shame series. Be sure to listen to last week's episode for an introduction into shame and how it relates to self-esteem. In this e…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1780,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/master-your-marriage-6011000/episodes/how-adapting-to-trauma-wires-us-for-shame/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/master-your-marriage-6011000/how-adapting-to-trauma-wires-us-for-shame.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}