{"podcast":{"title":"Marriage Therapy Radio","slug":"marriage-therapy-radio-716729","podcast_index_feed_id":716729,"rss_url":"https://rss.art19.com/marriage-therapy-radio","website_url":"https://art19.com/shows/marriage-therapy-radio","image_url":"https://content.production.cdn.art19.com/images/73/05/66/00/73056600-70e5-4ac5-a567-c66dc00415b3/f16716c292d04172eddbd3d55a6bbf82edff468857593764be3ee90b739efcc599e2c074f31cefac2fee7cb5e52330967084efdc2ed8d93e27dc789dbc2f189f.jpeg","author":"MTR","episode_count":432,"summary":"Look... every couple struggles. You fight too much; you're bored; sex is either okay (or rare); maybe you're even considering divorce. OR... maybe your marriage is actually pretty good, but you want to go deeper. In this podcast, straight-talking marriage therapist Zach Brittle tackle the most common complaints virtually every marriage experience. Along the way, they reveal the science behind strong relationships and talk about what's really going on for couples. Topics include conflict, communication, compatibility, money, sex, in-laws, infidelity, time-management, future dreams, and more. If you want relief? A deeper connection? A new way forward...? Then you've got to find out what's REALLY going on in your marriage. That's what this podcast is about. You can learn more about Zach, and his alternatives to traditional therapy at marriagetherapyradio.com .","last_synced_at":"2026-07-07T16:22:53.819472+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/marriage-therapy-radio-716729"},"episode":{"title":"Ep 420 What If Taking Responsibility Is the Most Romantic Thing You Can Do? w/ Arlina and Bob Allen","slug":"ep-420-what-if-taking-responsibility-is-the-most-romantic-thing-you-can-do-w-arlina-and-bob-allen","published_at":"2026-04-14T07:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/marriage-therapy-radio-716729/ep-420-what-if-taking-responsibility-is-the-most-romantic-thing-you-can-do-w-arlina-and-bob-allen","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/marriage-therapy-radio-716729","url":"https://marriagetherapyradio.com/2026/04/14/ep-420-what-if-taking-responsibility-is-the-most-romantic-thing-you-can-do-w-arlina-and-bob-allen/","audio_url":"https://rss.art19.com/episodes/4513d53e-fa39-4a16-8534-f9dd2667cfa3.mp3?rss_browser=BAhJIg90cmFuc2NyaWJyBjoGRVQ%3D--952c5701c84ad333c69d5faa668f8177091704f0","summary":"Zach sits down with Arlina and Bob Allen, a couple who met in a recovery community over 30 years ago and have been building their marriage with the same tools ever since. What starts as a surprisingly revealing Game of Thrones conversation (they watch it on repeat as a bedtime ritual, and yes, they have strong opinions about House of the Dragon) turns into a grounded, real-world look at how recovery principles translate directly into relational health. Arlina walks through a go-to story from early in their relationship: a tipping dispute at a dinner with friends that spiraled into a full-blown money fight. She breaks down the four-column resentment inventory she learned in recovery, showing how she moved from \"it's clearly his fault\" to \"oh no, I'm the jerk.\" Bob talks about the role his men's group played as a sounding board, helping him sort through what was his business and what wasn't before bringing anything back to Arlina. Together, they describe a pattern of going to their separate corners, doing individual work, and coming back ready to own their part. The conversation shifts into their current season of life: approaching the empty nest, figuring out what retirement looks like, and trying to answer the question \"what kind of experiences do we want to have?\" Zach reframes self-care as something that is actually selfish not to do, comparing it to an athlete hiding an injury from their team. Arlina and Bob both affirm that their self-care practices, morning routines, gratitude, exercise, prayer, are what keep them showing up as the best versions of themselves for each other. This is a couple who makes 31 years look like something worth rooting for. Key Takeaways Resentment is the wedge that drives couples apart. 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