{"podcast":{"title":"Make More Love","slug":"make-more-love-6719840","podcast_index_feed_id":6719840,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/make-more-love/","website_url":"https://makemorelove.show","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/48cbd6c1-e4e1-48bb-953e-7f059d956611/AVUYsUJnLfJ8GJkRby3dpssv.jpg","author":"Ellen Dorian","episode_count":83,"summary":"Are you a male business leader who wants a hot and healthy marriage but feels consumed by the relentless demands of growing your company? Welcome! Make More Love is the podcast for high-performing male business leaders who want to achieve the business of their dreams—without losing the love of their life. Join host Ellen Dorian, veteran relationship expert and business coach, as she reveals practical strategies to maintain connection and intimate intensity in committed relationships. The show is a space for straight-up, judgment-free conversations about how listeners can be extraordinary in every way that matters—from handling the complexities of business to creating a deeply passionate relationship with their life partner without losing sight of what makes them uniquely themselves. Ellen brings her extensive expertise to challenge obsolete notions of masculinity, transactional thinking, false hierarchies, and the “work-life balance” myth—all of which can get in the way of building passionate, fulfilling life partnerships. This isn’t therapy. Traditional marriage counseling doesn’t resonate with everyone, so this show delivers practical, relatable advice that leverages the skills…","last_synced_at":"2026-07-10T00:20:48.739845+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/make-more-love-6719840"},"episode":{"title":"68: The Brutal Truth About Relationship Conflict--and What to Do About It","slug":"68-the-brutal-truth-about-relationship-conflict-and-what-to-do-about-it","published_at":"2025-09-25T13:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/make-more-love-6719840/68-the-brutal-truth-about-relationship-conflict-and-what-to-do-about-it","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/make-more-love-6719840","url":"https://makemorelove.show","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/fe4ecd58-f185-46dc-ad47-dfe4889ebb8d.mp3","summary":"Ellen Dorian discusses strategies for managing conflict in relationships, introducing the concept of \"passionate problem solving\" as an alternative to cold war and hot war conflict styles. She outlines two pathways: early intervention and radical repair, drawing inspiration from kink and BDSM protocols and Japanese apology frameworks. Part 1: Understanding Conflict and Early Intervention - Esther Perel's three categories of conflict: power and control, respect and recognition, care and closeness - Recognizing personal \"tells\" that signal emotional escalation - Implementing kink-inspired protocols: safe words, negotiated agreements, and aftercare Part 2: Radical Repair for Full-Blown Conflicts - Step-by-step process for addressing conflicts after they've escalated - Naming the hurt, reflecting back, owning responsibility, and offering a radical apology - Reaffirming connection and attacking the problem, not each other Part 3: Applying Passionate Problem Solving - Factors influencing success: meaning gap, relationship foundation, and personal skills - Importance of practice and commitment to transform conflict handling - Encouragement to seek outside help when needed Key Takeaways: - Early intervention focuses on self-control, not partner control - Repair matters more than being right in conflicts - Always attack the problem, not each other - Passionate problem solving requires practice and discipline Call to Action: Ellen encourages listeners to book a free Relationship Reset call, join the Passionate Partners Insider community on Facebook, and spread the word about the Make More Love podcast. Closing Thoughts: Passionate problem solving is not a quick fix but can transform how couples handle conflict when practiced consistently. Support & Resources: Ellen invites l…","meta_description":"Ellen Dorian discusses strategies for managing conflict in relationships, introducing the concept of \"passionate problem solving\" as an alternative to col…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1329,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/make-more-love-6719840/episodes/68-the-brutal-truth-about-relationship-conflict-and-what-to-do-about-it/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/make-more-love-6719840/68-the-brutal-truth-about-relationship-conflict-and-what-to-do-about-it.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}