{"podcast":{"title":"LOVERS by Shan","slug":"lovers-by-shan-4367835","podcast_index_feed_id":4367835,"rss_url":"https://feeds.megaphone.fm/LEME1350073476","website_url":"http://loversbyshan.com/","image_url":"https://megaphone.imgix.net/podcasts/dad9f9e8-3a90-11f1-a76b-d7f6750ad978/image/e0e99cde67e86506dc2899de8c83b9be.jpg?ixlib=rails-4.3.1&max-w=3000&max-h=3000&fit=crop&auto=format,compress","author":"Lemonada Media","episode_count":169,"summary":"LOVERS by Shan is an education-first space where listeners come to better understand their own intimate lives through the life lessons and expertise of others. Shan Boodram’s mission is to empower everyone to be their own intimacy expert in the bedroom and beyond by treating guests of the podcast as educators in their own right. Past guests include Kelly Rowland who taught us about being a sensualist. Becky G who shared the importance of healthy love in an unhealthy body. Kerry Washington who warned about the dangers of keeping secrets. Kamie Crawford who taught us about the joys of breaking up. Jesse Reyez who reminded us that it's alright to admit you're the one who let a good one get away. When we paused in 2023 we had 5.1 million listeners and 8 million YouTube views. Excited to see how many lives we can impact in 2025 with our fresh look and approach. Sales and Distribution by Lemonada Media https://lemonadamedia.com/","last_synced_at":null,"page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/lovers-by-shan-4367835"},"episode":{"title":"Everyone Wants This Kind of Love… Until It Costs Them Something","slug":"everyone-wants-this-kind-of-love-until-it-costs-them-something","published_at":"2026-05-20T07:30:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/lovers-by-shan-4367835/everyone-wants-this-kind-of-love-until-it-costs-them-something","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/lovers-by-shan-4367835","url":"https://www.podtrac.com/pts/redirect.mp3/pdst.fm/e/claritaspod.com/measure/pscrb.fm/rss/p/mgln.ai/e/491/traffic.megaphone.fm/LEME5214735774.mp3","audio_url":"https://www.podtrac.com/pts/redirect.mp3/pdst.fm/e/claritaspod.com/measure/pscrb.fm/rss/p/mgln.ai/e/491/traffic.megaphone.fm/LEME5214735774.mp3","summary":"Sex Is a Skill. Beducated is where you learn it. Join the world's largest sex school and access 150+ courses for curious adults: https://beduc.at/bg2621-boody Big love to the sponsor of this episode, Masterclass. Right now, our listeners get an additional 15% off any MasterClass annual membership at masterclass.com/lovers. ---------- In this episode of Lovers, I sit down with KevOnStage and Melissa Fredericks for a conversation about the kind of partnership most people admire from a distance… but might struggle to survive in real life. Before the success, before the tours, and before the platform, Melissa was the one carrying the financial weight of their household while Kev pursued stand-up comedy full time. She talks honestly about what it felt like to be the responsible one, why she chose not to weaponize money in their relationship, and how they built trust without keeping score. Together, they unpack the mindset that has shaped their marriage for years: if one person fails, both people fail. If one person wins, both people win. We also talk about resentment in long-term relationships, navigating major life transitions like perimenopause, giving your partner room to evolve, and why some of the choices that strengthened their marriage would look completely irrational to other couples. This episode challenges modern ideas around independence, partnership, sacrifice, gender roles, and what it actually means to build a life with someone instead of simply alongside them. If you’ve ever wondered what real partnership looks like behind the scenes, or questioned whether you’d actually be willing to make the sacrifices required for the kind of love you admire, this conversation is for you. Follow KevOnStage & Melissa Fredericks → Kev's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/k…","meta_description":"Sex Is a Skill. Beducated is where you learn it. Join the world's largest sex school and access 150+ courses for curious adults: https://beduc.at/bg2621-b…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":4464,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/lovers-by-shan-4367835/episodes/everyone-wants-this-kind-of-love-until-it-costs-them-something/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/lovers-by-shan-4367835/everyone-wants-this-kind-of-love-until-it-costs-them-something.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}