{"podcast":{"title":"Love Inside Out with Adele Testa","slug":"love-inside-out-with-adele-testa-7707936","podcast_index_feed_id":7707936,"rss_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/10c9e84e8/podcast/rss","website_url":"https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/adelethecoach","image_url":"https://d3t3ozftmdmh3i.cloudfront.net/staging/podcast_uploaded_nologo/44966826/44966826-1765282058967-2ec5a2b9905fb.jpg","author":"Adele The Coach","episode_count":33,"summary":"What if the way we've been thinking about love is keeping us from actually having it? Whether you're happily partnered, struggling to connect, or somewhere in the messy middle—pull up a chair. Let's figure this out together. Love Inside Out is for anyone who's ever felt like they're performing in their relationship instead of living in it. For people who wonder if compromise has turned into playing small. For those asking: Why was this easier in my twenties? I'm Adele—coach, and curious human. Thank you for joining me in this journey!","last_synced_at":"2026-07-08T10:22:34.420887+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/love-inside-out-with-adele-testa-7707936"},"episode":{"title":"18. The imaginary race & FOMO in love: why you're comparing your love life to a timeline that doesn't exist","slug":"18-the-imaginary-race-fomo-in-love-why-you-re-comparing-your-love-life-to-a-timeline-that-doesn-t-exist","published_at":"2026-04-19T00:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/love-inside-out-with-adele-testa-7707936/18-the-imaginary-race-fomo-in-love-why-you-re-comparing-your-love-life-to-a-timeline-that-doesn-t-exist","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/love-inside-out-with-adele-testa-7707936","url":"https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/adelethecoach/episodes/18--The-imaginary-race--FOMO-in-love-why-youre-comparing-your-love-life-to-a-timeline-that-doesnt-exist-e3i3vli","audio_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/10c9e84e8/podcast/play/118668402/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-3-18%2F422352484-44100-2-b85ca7018f30d.mp3","summary":"You're not behind. You're scrolling and play a lose-lose game with endless comparisons. Nobody tells you this, so I will: the most damaging thing you can do in love is measure your real life against someone else's highlight reel. That knot in your stomach when a friend gets engaged. That restless ache when you see a couple on holiday and yours feels quieter. That voice saying you should be further along by now. That's not intuition. That's FOMO. And it's running more of your love decisions than you think. FOMO in love is not jealousy. It's not envy. It's a fear — the fear that your love life is falling behind a timeline nobody actually agreed to. And it doesn't just hit single people. It hits those in relationships, those in situationships, and those who've been through divorce hardest of all. In this episode, I go deeper into FOMO than I've gone on any topic so far. And I think it might change how you see your own love life. 🤎 WHAT'S INSIDE THIS EPISODE 🤎 The Imaginary Timeline — where your love roadmap came from, and why it was never yours to begin with. 🤎 The Comparison Trap — how social media hijacks your nervous system. 🤎 The Grief Nobody Recognises — FOMO often masks grief for a life that didn't happen. Until you mourn the imaginary version, you keep chasing it. 🤎 FOMO and Your Attachment Style — why anxious attachment turbocharges FOMO, and why avoidant attachment uses it as a costume. 🤎 The Sunk Cost Trap — why people stay in wrong relationships because leaving feels like wasting the years they invested. 🤎 The "What If" Loop — and a practical tool called the What If Audit to break the spiral. 🤎 Heart Work — three questions to sit with this week. If something in this episode landed — or if you want to tell me which chapter hit hardest — send me a DM on…","meta_description":"You're not behind. You're scrolling and play a lose-lose game with endless comparisons. Nobody tells you this, so I will: the most damaging thing you can…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1314,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/love-inside-out-with-adele-testa-7707936/episodes/18-the-imaginary-race-fomo-in-love-why-you-re-comparing-your-love-life-to-a-timeline-that-doesn-t-exist/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/love-inside-out-with-adele-testa-7707936/18-the-imaginary-race-fomo-in-love-why-you-re-comparing-your-love-life-to-a-timeline-that-doesn-t-exist.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}