{"podcast":{"title":"Love Inside Out with Adele Testa","slug":"love-inside-out-with-adele-testa-7707936","podcast_index_feed_id":7707936,"rss_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/10c9e84e8/podcast/rss","website_url":"https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/adelethecoach","image_url":"https://d3t3ozftmdmh3i.cloudfront.net/staging/podcast_uploaded_nologo/44966826/44966826-1765282058967-2ec5a2b9905fb.jpg","author":"Adele The Coach","episode_count":33,"summary":"What if the way we've been thinking about love is keeping us from actually having it? Whether you're happily partnered, struggling to connect, or somewhere in the messy middle—pull up a chair. Let's figure this out together. Love Inside Out is for anyone who's ever felt like they're performing in their relationship instead of living in it. For people who wonder if compromise has turned into playing small. For those asking: Why was this easier in my twenties? I'm Adele—coach, and curious human. Thank you for joining me in this journey!","last_synced_at":"2026-07-08T10:22:34.420887+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/love-inside-out-with-adele-testa-7707936"},"episode":{"title":"14. What primary school kids know about Love -that most adults have forgotten","slug":"14-what-primary-school-kids-know-about-love-that-most-adults-have-forgotten","published_at":"2026-03-22T07:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/love-inside-out-with-adele-testa-7707936/14-what-primary-school-kids-know-about-love-that-most-adults-have-forgotten","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/love-inside-out-with-adele-testa-7707936","url":"https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/adelethecoach/episodes/14--What-primary-school-kids-know-about-Love--that-most-adults-have-forgotten-e3gpn37","audio_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/10c9e84e8/podcast/play/117283367/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-2-21%2F420506841-44100-2-080628ca3972d.m4a","summary":"Last Sunday, I spotted a poster on a classroom wall in a primary school. Five rules. Handwritten in coloured marker. For children aged six. And I stood there thinking — if adults of my generation learnt and applied these five rules in their romantic relationships, half the heartbreak out there simply would not exist. We teach children these things before they can tie their shoelaces. Then somewhere between childhood and adulthood, we collectively forget every single one. In this episode, I go through all five rules — one by one — and show you how each of them is a masterclass in how to love another person well. We talk about why we stop listening the moment we start preparing our defence. Why we confuse intimacy with agreement . Why we stop being curious about the person we love — and start relating to a version of them that no longer exists. Why we deliver emotional verdicts without ever explaining ourselves. And why changing your mind in a relationship feels like losing — when it's actually the bravest thing you can do. Whether you're in a relationship, dating, or single and doing the inner work — this one is for you. Chapters: — Welcome & the story behind the poster— Rule 1: Proof of listening (not just the intention)— Rule 2: It's ok to think differently (no, really) — Rule 3: Stay curious — what Gottman found about couples who last— Rule 4: The power of "because"— Rule 5: Changing your mind is not losing— Heart Work: Your challenge for this week— Closing Referenced in this episode: John Gottman — decades of research on long-term couple satisfaction, including the concept of "love maps" and curiosity as a predictor of lasting relationships. Key works: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (1999), The Science of Trust (2011). Love Ins…","meta_description":"Last Sunday, I spotted a poster on a classroom wall in a primary school. Five rules. Handwritten in coloured marker. For children aged six. And I stood th…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":914,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/love-inside-out-with-adele-testa-7707936/episodes/14-what-primary-school-kids-know-about-love-that-most-adults-have-forgotten/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/love-inside-out-with-adele-testa-7707936/14-what-primary-school-kids-know-about-love-that-most-adults-have-forgotten.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}