{"podcast":{"title":"Love Inside Out with Adele Testa","slug":"love-inside-out-with-adele-testa-7707936","podcast_index_feed_id":7707936,"rss_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/10c9e84e8/podcast/rss","website_url":"https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/adelethecoach","image_url":"https://d3t3ozftmdmh3i.cloudfront.net/staging/podcast_uploaded_nologo/44966826/44966826-1765282058967-2ec5a2b9905fb.jpg","author":"Adele The Coach","episode_count":33,"summary":"What if the way we've been thinking about love is keeping us from actually having it? Whether you're happily partnered, struggling to connect, or somewhere in the messy middle—pull up a chair. Let's figure this out together. Love Inside Out is for anyone who's ever felt like they're performing in their relationship instead of living in it. For people who wonder if compromise has turned into playing small. For those asking: Why was this easier in my twenties? I'm Adele—coach, and curious human. Thank you for joining me in this journey!","last_synced_at":"2026-07-08T10:22:34.420887+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/love-inside-out-with-adele-testa-7707936"},"episode":{"title":"11. How to recover - and actually grow - after an argument","slug":"11-how-to-recover-and-actually-grow-after-an-argument","published_at":"2026-03-01T09:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/love-inside-out-with-adele-testa-7707936/11-how-to-recover-and-actually-grow-after-an-argument","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/love-inside-out-with-adele-testa-7707936","url":"https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/adelethecoach/episodes/11--How-to-recover---and-actually-grow---after-an-argument-e3fj2uv","audio_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/10c9e84e8/podcast/play/116017567/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-4-20%2F424576268-44100-2-cefe9d66cd242.mp3","summary":"The argument is over. The voices have stopped. So why does the silence feel heavier than the shouting did? If your relationship feels weird after a fight — even when the argument is over — listen to this episode. That uncomfortable space — where you're in the same house, doing normal things, but both of you are tense and somehow still fighting in your head — is where most couples actually become disconnected. Not in the fight itself, but in everything that comes after. The damage doesn't start during the argument. It starts in the recovery we were never taught how to do. In this episode, I unpack what really happens after a fight, why a "calm follow-up" three minutes later is doomed, and the three sneaky ways most of us sabotage the recovery without realising it. I also share one of the most vulnerable stories I've told on this podcast — about the most painful "yes" of my life, and the months of fighting about bins that followed. Inside this episode: → The 20-minute rule: why your body is still in the fight long after the words stop→ The invisible thread that connects your "random" recurring arguments→ The 5 categories of argument every couple should know — and why misdiagnosing yours is costing you peace→ The crucial difference between compassion and justification → The 3-step recovery framework: diagnose, settle, repair (not apologise)→ A dedicated section for situationships and a reflection for singles This week's Heart Work is a three-step framework you can use the next time things get tense — at home, at work, with family. Because r ecovering well isn't just a love skill. It's a life skill. 🤎 Small spoiler: next episode goes into rage — what happens when one of you completely loses the plot. Chapters: 00:00 The silence after the storm…","meta_description":"The argument is over. The voices have stopped. So why does the silence feel heavier than the shouting did? If your relationship feels weird after a fight…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1567,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/love-inside-out-with-adele-testa-7707936/episodes/11-how-to-recover-and-actually-grow-after-an-argument/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/love-inside-out-with-adele-testa-7707936/11-how-to-recover-and-actually-grow-after-an-argument.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}