{"podcast":{"title":"Lights On with Carl Lentz","slug":"lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795","podcast_index_feed_id":6927795,"rss_url":"https://rss.art19.com/lights-on-with-carl-lentz","website_url":"https://art19.com/shows/lights-on-with-carl-lentz","image_url":"https://content.production.cdn.art19.com/images/5b/64/0c/f2/5b640cf2-4e85-4c8f-843c-cea83efe4ce5/61b4e9f49ec24f27d4601374c0a37fcd8bc0f9cd5fb5cce410765f7cc703ff2b069875f10baf249f82c32d5d545b41bff021493f4c5ad5fbace6d56c7ab1bb75.jpeg","author":"B-Side","episode_count":105,"summary":"Lights On with Carl Lentz is exactly what this show is. Carl Lentz is turning on the lights in his own life, & giving people space to do the same. We will lead with vulnerability, & have open conversations to bring light to the inner darkness in our lives. Turn on the lights with us!","last_synced_at":"2026-07-21T04:18:16.689075+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795"},"episode":{"title":"Your Husband Is Lying. Your Nervous System Knows It.","slug":"your-husband-is-lying-your-nervous-system-knows-it","published_at":"2026-03-11T00:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795/your-husband-is-lying-your-nervous-system-knows-it","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795","url":"https://s.gum.fm/s-6750d39b27f9d571b5016e8c/claritaspod.com/measure/pscrb.fm/rss/p/rss.art19.com/episodes/a311dbf8-cef4-4822-8d93-e2aca5dd5a81.mp3?rss_browser=BAhJIg90cmFuc2NyaWJyBjoGRVQ%3D--952c5701c84ad333c69d5faa668f8177091704f0","audio_url":"https://s.gum.fm/s-6750d39b27f9d571b5016e8c/claritaspod.com/measure/pscrb.fm/rss/p/rss.art19.com/episodes/a311dbf8-cef4-4822-8d93-e2aca5dd5a81.mp3?rss_browser=BAhJIg90cmFuc2NyaWJyBjoGRVQ%3D--952c5701c84ad333c69d5faa668f8177091704f0","summary":"Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com Three listener questions. All of them about what betrayal actually does to a person. Not just to the marriage. To the voice inside that kept saying something is wrong. A woman who spent years convincing herself she was the problem just found out her husband has a gambling addiction and has been lying to her for years. Carl and Laura break down the difference between intuition and anxiety, why gaslighting trains you to distrust the nudge, and the three-step process for rebuilding self-trust. Carl also delivers something every husband in recovery needs to hear: full disclosure does not just help your wife. It restores her confidence in herself. A woman two years into dating a man she loves has discovered multiple lies about his past. He is honest when confronted. Never before. Carl and Laura explain why being honest when caught is not the same as being honest, and why the question is never about his past. It is about his integrity under low pressure. Because marriage does not reduce pressure. It multiplies it. A woman three years past her husband's infidelity is still together, has done the work, and still feels emotionally abandoned. Carl distinguishes remorse from repair. One says I am sorry. The other says I can stay present in your pain. Most men only know how to do one. This episode will challenge anyone who believes that stopping the behavior is the same thing as doing the work. Follow Carl at: https://www.instagram.com/carllentz/ Follow Laura at: https://www.instagram.com/lauralentz/ See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .","meta_description":"Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com Three listener questions. All of them about what betrayal actually does to a person. Not just…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2643,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795/episodes/your-husband-is-lying-your-nervous-system-knows-it/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795/your-husband-is-lying-your-nervous-system-knows-it.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}