{"podcast":{"title":"Lights On with Carl Lentz","slug":"lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795","podcast_index_feed_id":6927795,"rss_url":"https://rss.art19.com/lights-on-with-carl-lentz","website_url":"https://art19.com/shows/lights-on-with-carl-lentz","image_url":"https://content.production.cdn.art19.com/images/5b/64/0c/f2/5b640cf2-4e85-4c8f-843c-cea83efe4ce5/61b4e9f49ec24f27d4601374c0a37fcd8bc0f9cd5fb5cce410765f7cc703ff2b069875f10baf249f82c32d5d545b41bff021493f4c5ad5fbace6d56c7ab1bb75.jpeg","author":"B-Side","episode_count":105,"summary":"Lights On with Carl Lentz is exactly what this show is. Carl Lentz is turning on the lights in his own life, & giving people space to do the same. We will lead with vulnerability, & have open conversations to bring light to the inner darkness in our lives. Turn on the lights with us!","last_synced_at":"2026-07-21T04:18:16.689075+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795"},"episode":{"title":"The two decisions every couple has to make after betrayal","slug":"the-two-decisions-every-couple-has-to-make-after-betrayal","published_at":"2026-06-22T13:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795/the-two-decisions-every-couple-has-to-make-after-betrayal","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795","url":"https://s.gum.fm/s-6750d39b27f9d571b5016e8c/claritaspod.com/measure/pscrb.fm/rss/p/rss.art19.com/episodes/57207fbe-8b75-4c05-9778-81fd65da16b5.mp3?rss_browser=BAhJIg90cmFuc2NyaWJyBjoGRVQ%3D--952c5701c84ad333c69d5faa668f8177091704f0","audio_url":"https://s.gum.fm/s-6750d39b27f9d571b5016e8c/claritaspod.com/measure/pscrb.fm/rss/p/rss.art19.com/episodes/57207fbe-8b75-4c05-9778-81fd65da16b5.mp3?rss_browser=BAhJIg90cmFuc2NyaWJyBjoGRVQ%3D--952c5701c84ad333c69d5faa668f8177091704f0","summary":"Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com After last week's episode reframing the most asked question in betrayal recovery, Carl and Laura pick up exactly where they left off. In this episode of Lights On, they introduce what they call the two decision reality: the framework that quietly carried them out of the valley and into the marriage they have now. Most couples think they have one decision to make after betrayal. Stay or leave. Carl and Laura make the case for two. Decision one: will I become healthy? Decision two: what do I want to do with this marriage? And the reason so many couples stay stuck is because they're trying to answer the second question while completely ignoring the first. You'll hear why making a marriage decision in the aftermath of betrayal is like driving drunk, like grocery shopping while starving, like reading a compass during an earthquake. Why trauma, anger, desperation, fear, and shame are the worst decision-makers in the room, and why slowing down isn't weakness. It's wisdom. Laura speaks to the women still trying to hold a family together with a shattered nervous system, and the kids who need a healed parent more than they need an immediate answer. Carl gets direct with the men: much of the marriage decision may no longer belong to you, but the decision to get healthy still does. And he walks through the questions every betrayer has to sit with before claiming they've actually changed. Stay for the next 90 days challenge, the difference between remorse and recovery, and the line that should settle every man wondering what to do while he waits: building yourself with hope and faith is the only thing that's actually yours to do. This is part two of a multi-part conversation. Next week, Carl and Laura get into the real co…","meta_description":"Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com After last week's episode reframing the most asked question in betrayal recovery, Carl and La…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2034,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795/episodes/the-two-decisions-every-couple-has-to-make-after-betrayal/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795/the-two-decisions-every-couple-has-to-make-after-betrayal.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}