{"podcast":{"title":"Lights On with Carl Lentz","slug":"lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795","podcast_index_feed_id":6927795,"rss_url":"https://rss.art19.com/lights-on-with-carl-lentz","website_url":"https://art19.com/shows/lights-on-with-carl-lentz","image_url":"https://content.production.cdn.art19.com/images/5b/64/0c/f2/5b640cf2-4e85-4c8f-843c-cea83efe4ce5/61b4e9f49ec24f27d4601374c0a37fcd8bc0f9cd5fb5cce410765f7cc703ff2b069875f10baf249f82c32d5d545b41bff021493f4c5ad5fbace6d56c7ab1bb75.jpeg","author":"B-Side","episode_count":105,"summary":"Lights On with Carl Lentz is exactly what this show is. Carl Lentz is turning on the lights in his own life, & giving people space to do the same. We will lead with vulnerability, & have open conversations to bring light to the inner darkness in our lives. Turn on the lights with us!","last_synced_at":"2026-07-21T04:18:16.689075+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795"},"episode":{"title":"The alarm clock every marriage eventually hears","slug":"the-alarm-clock-every-marriage-eventually-hears","published_at":"2026-07-20T13:30:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795/the-alarm-clock-every-marriage-eventually-hears","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795","url":"https://s.gum.fm/s-6750d39b27f9d571b5016e8c/claritaspod.com/measure/pscrb.fm/rss/p/rss.art19.com/episodes/7b881358-d36a-4466-a5bf-2a4f0e0afae1.mp3?rss_browser=BAhJIg90cmFuc2NyaWJyBjoGRVQ%3D--952c5701c84ad333c69d5faa668f8177091704f0","audio_url":"https://s.gum.fm/s-6750d39b27f9d571b5016e8c/claritaspod.com/measure/pscrb.fm/rss/p/rss.art19.com/episodes/7b881358-d36a-4466-a5bf-2a4f0e0afae1.mp3?rss_browser=BAhJIg90cmFuc2NyaWJyBjoGRVQ%3D--952c5701c84ad333c69d5faa668f8177091704f0","summary":"Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com Most marriages don't fall apart in a single moment. They quietly erode under the weight of what nobody's willing to say out loud. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura get honest about the one thing that changed everything for them, and could change everything for any couple willing to try it: radical honesty. Carl and Laura walk through the alarm clock every marriage eventually hears. The one that sounds like distance, resentment, secrets, or that quiet voice saying something isn't right. Most couples hit snooze. And snooze. And snooze. Until the snooze button stops working. This episode is about waking up before you have to. You'll hear Carl get honest about the exhausting tax of living with a mask on, and the relief that came when he finally put it down. Laura speaks directly to the wives quietly gaslighting themselves inside marriages where the alarm has been going off for years. Together they walk through the radical honesty inventory: three questions any couple can take to dinner tonight to start finding out what they've been protecting themselves from, what they're most afraid to hear, and where they've been settling for keeping the peace instead of telling the truth. Stay for the image trap that quietly destroys marriages (especially in ministry and Christian circles), the \"active lies\" check every couple should run, and the line worth writing down: you cannot save your face and save your soul at the same time. You don't need a catastrophe to become radically honest. You just need one conversation. Follow Carl at: https://www.instagram.com/carllentz/ Follow Laura at: https://www.instagram.com/lauralentz/ Chapters: 0:44 - Welcome to Lights On 1:50 - Dropping Your Daughter Off + A Word to Young D…","meta_description":"Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com Most marriages don't fall apart in a single moment. They quietly erode under the weight of wh…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2922,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795/episodes/the-alarm-clock-every-marriage-eventually-hears/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795/the-alarm-clock-every-marriage-eventually-hears.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}