{"podcast":{"title":"Lights On with Carl Lentz","slug":"lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795","podcast_index_feed_id":6927795,"rss_url":"https://rss.art19.com/lights-on-with-carl-lentz","website_url":"https://art19.com/shows/lights-on-with-carl-lentz","image_url":"https://content.production.cdn.art19.com/images/5b/64/0c/f2/5b640cf2-4e85-4c8f-843c-cea83efe4ce5/61b4e9f49ec24f27d4601374c0a37fcd8bc0f9cd5fb5cce410765f7cc703ff2b069875f10baf249f82c32d5d545b41bff021493f4c5ad5fbace6d56c7ab1bb75.jpeg","author":"B-Side","episode_count":105,"summary":"Lights On with Carl Lentz is exactly what this show is. Carl Lentz is turning on the lights in his own life, & giving people space to do the same. We will lead with vulnerability, & have open conversations to bring light to the inner darkness in our lives. Turn on the lights with us!","last_synced_at":"2026-07-21T04:18:16.689075+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795"},"episode":{"title":"My Husband Hasn't Touched Me in 12 Years – Here’s what to do","slug":"my-husband-hasn-t-touched-me-in-12-years-here-s-what-to-do","published_at":"2026-01-21T05:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795/my-husband-hasn-t-touched-me-in-12-years-here-s-what-to-do","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795","url":"https://s.gum.fm/s-6750d39b27f9d571b5016e8c/claritaspod.com/measure/pscrb.fm/rss/p/rss.art19.com/episodes/73785482-6543-4feb-9046-7d3e973292f9.mp3?rss_browser=BAhJIg90cmFuc2NyaWJyBjoGRVQ%3D--952c5701c84ad333c69d5faa668f8177091704f0","audio_url":"https://s.gum.fm/s-6750d39b27f9d571b5016e8c/claritaspod.com/measure/pscrb.fm/rss/p/rss.art19.com/episodes/73785482-6543-4feb-9046-7d3e973292f9.mp3?rss_browser=BAhJIg90cmFuc2NyaWJyBjoGRVQ%3D--952c5701c84ad333c69d5faa668f8177091704f0","summary":"Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com In this raw episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura tackle a question most couples are too afraid to ask out loud: What do you do when your spouse hasn't initiated sex in over a decade? The answer will challenge everything you think you know about intimacy, desire, and what's really going on beneath the surface. Drawing from 23 years of marriage and their own journey of rebuilding after devastating betrayal, Carl and Laura expose an uncomfortable truth: a sexless marriage isn't actually about sex. It's about safety, avoidance, and what the nervous system has learned to protect itself from. And those patterns are quietly destroying more marriages than the fights ever could. Laura shares why women often fear initiation and what that internal dialogue actually sounds like. Carl delivers the conversation most couples avoid: if your spouse has shut down sexually, their nervous system has learned avoidance as protection—and shaming them won't fix it. From the three avenues every couple must explore (invisible hurdles, relational disconnect, and the meaning of sex in your marriage) to the two-month \"pressure reset\" that rebuilt their own intimacy—this episode delivers practical truths for couples who want to stop surviving and start connecting. —- This episode will challenge any couple who believes the problem is just about frequency when it's really about safety, honesty, and friendship. Follow Carl at: https://www.instagram.com/carllentz/ Follow Laura at: https://www.instagram.com/lauralentz/ Supported by Plana https://plana.org/ Supported by God Behind Bars https://godbehindbars.com — CHAPTERS: 00:00 The Sexless Marriage Epidemic 01:57 Why We're Not Marriage Experts 03:14 The Question That Started It All 04:44 Why T…","meta_description":"Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com In this raw episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura tackle a question most couples are too afrai…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2551,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795/episodes/my-husband-hasn-t-touched-me-in-12-years-here-s-what-to-do/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795/my-husband-hasn-t-touched-me-in-12-years-here-s-what-to-do.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}