{"podcast":{"title":"Lights On with Carl Lentz","slug":"lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795","podcast_index_feed_id":6927795,"rss_url":"https://rss.art19.com/lights-on-with-carl-lentz","website_url":"https://art19.com/shows/lights-on-with-carl-lentz","image_url":"https://content.production.cdn.art19.com/images/5b/64/0c/f2/5b640cf2-4e85-4c8f-843c-cea83efe4ce5/61b4e9f49ec24f27d4601374c0a37fcd8bc0f9cd5fb5cce410765f7cc703ff2b069875f10baf249f82c32d5d545b41bff021493f4c5ad5fbace6d56c7ab1bb75.jpeg","author":"B-Side","episode_count":105,"summary":"Lights On with Carl Lentz is exactly what this show is. Carl Lentz is turning on the lights in his own life, & giving people space to do the same. We will lead with vulnerability, & have open conversations to bring light to the inner darkness in our lives. Turn on the lights with us!","last_synced_at":"2026-07-21T04:18:16.689075+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795"},"episode":{"title":"How to stop being lonely in your marriage","slug":"how-to-stop-being-lonely-in-your-marriage","published_at":"2026-07-06T13:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795/how-to-stop-being-lonely-in-your-marriage","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795","url":"https://s.gum.fm/s-6750d39b27f9d571b5016e8c/claritaspod.com/measure/pscrb.fm/rss/p/rss.art19.com/episodes/800e4380-e9e5-4139-817a-e2173966fa7f.mp3?rss_browser=BAhJIg90cmFuc2NyaWJyBjoGRVQ%3D--952c5701c84ad333c69d5faa668f8177091704f0","audio_url":"https://s.gum.fm/s-6750d39b27f9d571b5016e8c/claritaspod.com/measure/pscrb.fm/rss/p/rss.art19.com/episodes/800e4380-e9e5-4139-817a-e2173966fa7f.mp3?rss_browser=BAhJIg90cmFuc2NyaWJyBjoGRVQ%3D--952c5701c84ad333c69d5faa668f8177091704f0","summary":"Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com You can be married and still lonely. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura get honest about one of the most under-talked-about realities in relationships: sitting next to someone every night and still feeling completely alone. If that sounds familiar, this one is for you. Carl and Laura walk through three real listener questions that get to the heart of connection: the wife wondering if she's asking for too much when her husband is a great provider and dad, the man realizing fifteen years in that he doesn't actually know his wife anymore, and the couple caught in patterns from Gottman's Four Horsemen without knowing they were doing it. Together, they unpack why \"we fell out of love\" is almost never the truth, and what's actually happening underneath it. You'll hear Laura get direct about the invisible weight women carry inside a lonely marriage, and the three questions every spouse should be asking themselves before asking anything of their partner. Carl gets blunt with the men: providing and protecting is the baseline, not the bar. He walks through the 4 D framework (decide, discover, design, delight) that changed how they show up for each other, why you have to win her every day instead of assuming you already have, and the shift that made intentional love feel less like effort and more like fuel. Stay for the line worth writing down: hysterical fights point to historical hurt, the reminder that clarity is kindness, and the reframe that just might rescue your marriage from autopilot. You don't fall out of love. You fall out of focus. Follow Carl at: https://www.instagram.com/carllentz/ Follow Laura at: https://www.instagram.com/lauralentz/ Chapters: 0:45 - Welcome to Lights On 1:19 - Laura's Double E…","meta_description":"Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com You can be married and still lonely. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura get honest…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":3256,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795/episodes/how-to-stop-being-lonely-in-your-marriage/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/lights-on-with-carl-lentz-6927795/how-to-stop-being-lonely-in-your-marriage.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}