{"podcast":{"title":"Legally Clueless","slug":"legally-clueless-82178","podcast_index_feed_id":82178,"rss_url":"https://www.spreaker.com/show/5931378/episodes/feed","website_url":"https://www.spreaker.com/show/legally-clueless_1","image_url":"https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/6b9d5b8b93e2fabf60fbf7260da1a2b0.jpg","author":"Legally Clueless","episode_count":574,"summary":"Legally Clueless is a weekly podcast by Kenyan media personality & social activist: Adelle Onyango!! Here, she documents her raw human journey as an evolving unapologetically African woman. The podcast is a space where people get to know just how okay it is to not know or not have it all figured out. It is also a space where Africans share stories from their lives; stories that teach, make us cry, make us laugh - real, authentic African stories. The #LegallyClueless hotline is +254768628790","last_synced_at":"2026-09-24T06:17:49.999936+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/legally-clueless-82178"},"episode":{"title":"The Lies We Tell Ourselves To Stay In Relationships | Mid Week Tease","slug":"the-lies-we-tell-ourselves-to-stay-in-relationships-mid-week-tease","published_at":"2026-08-25T18:31:57+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/legally-clueless-82178/the-lies-we-tell-ourselves-to-stay-in-relationships-mid-week-tease","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/legally-clueless-82178","url":"https://www.spreaker.com/episode/the-lies-we-tell-ourselves-to-stay-in-relationships-mid-week-tease--74685547","audio_url":"https://dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/api.spreaker.com/download/episode/74685547/mwt_ep_98.mp3","summary":"Sometimes the hardest part isn't realising a relationship isn't working. It's admitting that you've known for a while.This week on the Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks the stories we tell ourselves when we're trying to stay in relationships we've already begun to outgrow: maybe I need to give it more time, maybe I'm expecting too much, but they're a good person, maybe I haven't communicated clearly enough, what if I regret leaving? She explores self-abandonment, the sunk-cost fallacy, our attachment to potential, the difference between intuition and anxiety, and why we sometimes keep asking for another sign when our bodies have been giving us information all along. Plus, a question worth sitting with:If you trusted yourself completely, what would you already know? In this episode: Why “relationships are hard” can keep us tolerating chronic unhappiness Falling in love with someone's potential instead of the relationship you actually have Why someone doesn't have to be a bad person for you to leave The sunk-cost fallacy and staying because you've already invested years When communication becomes negotiating against reality Listening to your gut without treating every uncomfortable feeling as intuition Why fear of what comes after leaving can masquerade as uncertainty about whether to leave How self-abandonment slowly erodes self-trust Questions to ask yourself when you know something isn't working New episodes of the Mid Week Tease every Wednesday. JOIN THE LEGALLY CLUELESS COMMUNITY Sign up for our newsletter: https://www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ Follow Legally Clueless Africa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ Follow us on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/Legall…","meta_description":"Sometimes the hardest part isn't realising a relationship isn't working. It's admitting that you've known for a while.This week on the Mid Week Tease, Ade…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1322,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/legally-clueless-82178/episodes/the-lies-we-tell-ourselves-to-stay-in-relationships-mid-week-tease/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/legally-clueless-82178/the-lies-we-tell-ourselves-to-stay-in-relationships-mid-week-tease.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}