{"podcast":{"title":"Know Your Children with Rav Shlomo Katz","slug":"know-your-children-with-rav-shlomo-katz-7478156","podcast_index_feed_id":7478156,"rss_url":"https://feeds.transistor.fm/know-your-children-with-rav-shlomo-katz","website_url":"http://RavShlomoKatz.com","image_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/Gsqc5kgoRQpq-1ZVZ9vzbybx6O2pd0g4Ktg5tMDtRm0/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:1400/h:1400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8yYTUw/ODM2ZTE4ZTk5ZWI0/OTFhZTUwYmNkNzli/Y2RlZC5wbmc.jpg","author":"Rav Shlomo Katz","episode_count":22,"summary":"“Know Your Children with Rav Shlomo Katz” is a series about the everyday holy work of raising children with heart, patience, and honesty. Join Rav Shlomo in learning from the sefer Da Et Yeladecha by Rav Itamar Shwartz, author of Bilvavi Mishkan Evneh, and explore how Torah and Chazal guide us in building a healthy, loving connection between parent and child. This isn’t about perfect techniques or quick fixes. It’s about creating a foundation of truth, learning to really listen, and finding the right “funnel” so that what we want to give actually reaches our children. Each shiur is meant to be practical, gentle, and encouraging, and something you can take home and live with.","last_synced_at":null,"page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/know-your-children-with-rav-shlomo-katz-7478156"},"episode":{"title":"19. The Parenting Mistake of Confusing Empathy with Permission","slug":"19-the-parenting-mistake-of-confusing-empathy-with-permission","published_at":"2026-04-19T09:21:47+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/know-your-children-with-rav-shlomo-katz-7478156/19-the-parenting-mistake-of-confusing-empathy-with-permission","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/know-your-children-with-rav-shlomo-katz-7478156","url":"https://share.transistor.fm/s/551c049e","audio_url":"https://media.transistor.fm/551c049e/106b4875.mp3","summary":"Rav Shlomo Katz and the women of Shirat David continue exploring one of the most misunderstood יסודות in parenting: the difference between acknowledgment and enabling. Building on the concept of chush ha’ta’am —a child’s inner sense of preference and desire—Rav Shlomo explains why a child’s feelings must be recognized as real, even when their actions can’t be accepted. Just as we would never deny a child’s physical reality, we can’t dismiss their emotional world without causing deeper harm. Through practical examples—from food preferences to more complex emotional and החיים situations—this shiur lays out a clear framework: first acknowledge, then guide. Skipping that first step doesn’t create discipline—it creates distance. The challenge is learning how to validate what a child feels without reinforcing what may not be healthy or appropriate. And that delicate balance is where real chinuch begins. ---------- For more Shuirim and Music from Rav Shlomo Katz, visit: https://ravshlomokatz.com Join Rav Shlomo Katz's WhatsApp Community: https://chat.whatsapp.com/KHKOhhPaeHx5Kb74WL9L9a?mode=ems_copy_t CHAPTERS 00:00 Sponsorship Announcements 01:11 Recap: Food Discipline & Chush HaTa’am 03:51 Understanding the Sense of Taste 07:48 Coke Zero & Real vs. Perceived Desire 14:36 Personal Story: Discovering Taste as a Child 17:25 Physical Limits: Nails, Hair, and Reality 19:33 Encouraging Kids to Explore Preferences 21:44 Toy Guns & Boundaries in Chinuch 24:01 Desire Is Real: First Step in Parenting 29:00 Acknowledging Kids’ Preferences Beyond Food 33:53 Elevating Above Physical Desire 35:17 Responding to Extreme Emotional States 36:39 Intermarriage & Real Feelings vs. Values 41:40 Know Emotions Before Trying to Remove Them 43:58 Balancing Food Talk in the Home","meta_description":"Rav Shlomo Katz and the women of Shirat David continue exploring one of the most misunderstood יסודות in parenting: the difference between acknowledgment…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":3369,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/know-your-children-with-rav-shlomo-katz-7478156/episodes/19-the-parenting-mistake-of-confusing-empathy-with-permission/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/know-your-children-with-rav-shlomo-katz-7478156/19-the-parenting-mistake-of-confusing-empathy-with-permission.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}